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#1
Dec 11, 2009, 10:11 PM
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What do you do when you find things about your T on-line. I mean...
I simply had to type his name and I found this page with his picture+ he wrote name of his school, where he used to work and his future plans with on-line counsellings and the current web site that he was managing place like this one etc... When I found that page, I was like... WOW he is either super stupid or he really wants EVERYONE to know about him. Since he was writing thesis about on-line counsellings and all that. He used to use fake name with me, however one day, out of blue, he told me this " Mike is not my real name, you know that right?" "Micheal" is my real name. I was like, oh, ok... Did I ask you???? Why are you telling me this now??? I thought he was giving me some kind of clues " OK, I want you to goggle me with my real name"  Yes, I can read ppl's mind????????????????????  I don't have to know everything but I just wonder why he would even put all these details about himself on-line with his picture... where anyone could find him just by typing his name... I was trying see if I could find any info on my current P docr... I didn't find ANYTHING about her at all...I was lucky if I could find her name on the net. Have you found any info about your T's or C's on line??? well, I guess it's different because he was doing his practicum... but if I was a student and doing my practicum as a counselor, I don't think I would feel comfortable writing name of my school, or my previous job related to counseling or my personal interests and all that... 
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Dec 11, 2009, 11:22 PM
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This is actually pretty normal for some Ts. Some prefer to be as completely anonymous as possible, but having professional stuff on the web is okay -- it's actually okay to ask your T all of that if you want to know -- like, where did you go to school? What is your experience? What is your expertise? Having that stuff on a website is professionally okay.
Where I work (which is a mental health clinic), my boss's stuff is all online -- specialties, publications, his resume, picture, everything. I work at a University clinic, so that is pretty common -- all of the T's have at least some info on research interests and specialties, as well as the schools they went to and their experience. I am weirded out that I found info about my T online that was personal -- I now know her birthdate, parents' names, sister's name, the fact that her dad died when she was 14.. I know all of that from a web search. Kinda weird-feeling.. I feel guilty, like I spied on her or something. But she also has a website with lots of info on her professionally. I don't feel guilty for visiting her website. Sometimes I go there just to look at her picture because it calms me down.
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Dec 11, 2009, 11:31 PM
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My T has a professional website and is listed on various counseling websites for my area as well. I also found out some other things about T that i won't disclose here. Its just so weird because I want to tell T that she shoul probably be careful when she post things especially when it involves her family. She might end up with a psychotic stalker like patient an that could be scary.
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Dec 12, 2009, 12:44 AM
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Yeah my T has a private practice, but works in a setting with other therapists, so she has her picture and info on that website.
But I know way more than that because she registered one of her children for a program that we run where I work. I work at the front desk and handle all registrations, so when I first saw it I was freaked out. I know her phone numbers! Work! Cell! Address! lol. I got over it and dont think about it anymore..but it did freak me out for a little while. |
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Dec 12, 2009, 01:39 AM
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therapists all have their school and work related info for the whole world to see, so I'm not surprised that yours does too. What I find odd is him telling you that his real name is Michael. And how would you know that Mike wasn't his real name? Did he tell you that his name was an alias from the beginning? Granted I have some deep trust issues, but I would have such a hard time trusting my therapist if he did that. I would always be wondering what else he isn't telling me...and trust is critical in therapy. I might be hyper-sensitive about this though, so don't let me make you paranoid if you're not that bothered by it. As with everything that comes up...more therapy material to examine.... 
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Dec 12, 2009, 03:00 AM
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yeah...
I should have asked him... my fault... I wish I had chance to talk to him about it. it's too late now... |
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Dec 12, 2009, 08:44 AM
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i think something like "mike" and "michael" are fairly common, interchangeably. so it wouldn't weird me out too much. my old therapist i am fairly sure used completely different names, however (e.g., "michael" instead of "charles") and i asked him about it but he didn't give me a clear answer.
re: finding things out. eh. i found my current T's facebook. it has pictures of his house and decor in it, ffs. i don't feel guilty because anyone with any net savvy should know better by now. he also gave me a copy of a letter for my uni which had his letterhead on it - work, mobile, home numbers, private email, home address etc. so i just figure he doesn't care so much for privacy, and i appreciate that because it reassures me that he has nothing to hide. pdoc on the other hand - i can find his name listed at the hospital he works at, and that's about it. |
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Dec 12, 2009, 09:07 AM
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i can't find anything about pdoc which is good in a way because that means she is more of a blank slate.
I however had found my old T and her my space profile which had everything on private except for her photographs and friends lists. I looked at the photos which were mainly family vacation photos, i felt a bit invasive, but if everything else is on private then its not like she doesn't know how to put things on private. I also had used new T computer to show her a website she had her facebook page open i almost screamed. :O |
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Dec 12, 2009, 11:03 AM
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I agree. Michael and Mike are pretty interchangeable. My t goes by Steve, but his real name is C. Steven. Not sure what the C stands for. That wouldn't be alarming at all that he told me what his full name was. (Of course, my t has his diplomas hanging on the wall, so I figured that out myself.)
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Dec 12, 2009, 11:17 AM
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Dec 12, 2009, 11:38 AM
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In session the other day my T was telling me that she knew nothing about her T she use to see, didn't know her husband or childrens names ect and didn't really care to know. I was thinking yeah right lol, of course I was basing that on my own need to know.
When she was telling me that I wanted to say so badly, oh lol, I already know all that about you. I have known for a year now. I know you have 2 teenagers, I know thier names, ages, I know your husbands name ect. I know where you live, which was by accident because I rode the back roads and she happened to live on one of the back roads that I would take to work everyday in the summer. I saw her SUV in the driveway with the same stickers, then I saw the other vehicle she drives in it as well that was how I figured that one out. I moved so I don't go the way anymore and don't even have to urge to. I know where she works full time apart from her private practice, I know her birthdate ect....Internet can be crazy, and I didn't have to pay to see any of that information. Funny thing is, after I learned where she lived, which is an amazing house by the way with horses ect.....I had more curiosity, so then looked up other things. Now a year later, I don't even care lol, it didn't really do much for me to know all that but in the beginning, I think I wanted to know that I could trust her which is why I searched the web. I have never told her this stuff which makes me feel like I am hiding something but I now I don't even want to tell her because I don't want her to think I am weird lol..... I think its totally ok to want to know information about your T and if it's on the web then its public information and it's not illegal to see it
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Dec 12, 2009, 12:55 PM
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"not my real name - is my real name" part. I was so hyper-sensitive about his T's use of the word "real" that I didn't even notice that Mike is short for Michael!
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Dec 12, 2009, 01:16 PM
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It's not your fault at all...I hope you don't feel bad about it. You would have asked him about it if it was important to you at the time...maybe you had other things to talk about. Sometimes, I don't even think to bring up what's transpired between us in the moment. It's only after I've digested it for awhile and realized that it's bothering me that I analyze it to death with my therapist. It's difficult to discuss every little thing in such a short amount of time....some things just don't get analyzed until much later or not at all...and that's okay. Take care. 
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Dec 12, 2009, 03:45 PM
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I'm debating telling T what I know about her. I think it may be freeing, but also scary. It's like a big secret I'm carrying around. Oh well. I worry she'll be upset. It's nothing big, but I did google her, and feel horribly guilty about the time I spent looking the stuff up.
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Dec 12, 2009, 04:07 PM
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I know plenty people that have different names for different things. My former T had several different names. I use different names. I don't go to work and tell everyone I am pegasus. I have professional details about myself in various places but I don't necessarily share everything about me every place I go. I'd like to understand why it troubles you.
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Dec 12, 2009, 06:14 PM
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SERIOUSLY though---someone who works with the public like a T needs to care more about Internet safety and privacy than your T.. hopefully her Facebook will soon be set to private. I used my T computer once in session to show him something that he asked me to about my uni. It was on some bicycle event on it that I suspect he was attending. I didn't ask him because I didn't care, but it was sorta funny because I didn't think of him as the jock bicycle type to ride cross country for a few days... Anyway, my T and I know a lot of the same people in the community. It's a weird university community with a lot of interconnections, so it's not surprising. I found it actually helpful at times that I didn't have to waste time explaining some stuff since he already knew who and what I was talking about. Comforting to know that I am not the only one who had problems with the same things, same people, etc. You know... helpful.
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Dec 12, 2009, 06:17 PM
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LOL... I can picture it now in the break room: "Hi everyone, you all know me as XXXXXX, but on PsychCentral.com I am known simply as the great PEGASUS. Here forth you will no longer call me XXXXX, but PEGASUS. That is all."  Yeah, I can see that going over well at the office.
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Dec 12, 2009, 07:00 PM
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This thread is just awesome! LOL !!!
I admit to searching for T on line - but that is how I found him! He has a webpage. And I wanted to make sure my T was someone who used the internet a bit because I wanted to have access to email T if I needed to do so. Thankfully, he is awesome and does let me talk in email and will support me if it is critical - which he is great at being able to figure out! Trauma work sucks! Anyway, I did find him on facebook and made the mistake of sending a friend request. I did not think anything about it at the time outside of WAY COOL! He accepted and that shocked me. I got on and was looking at his pictures and thinking how he was a normal guy with a normal family - which was awesome. Then he sent me an email unfriending me because it was not "safe" for me - which duh - he was right but I didn't think of that. In his defense, I only use part of my real name due to the ex husband abuse issue! He thought I was a classmate from his HS years. :-) So that kinda hurt for a few hours. I solved that with a nice half dozen shots of whiskey. LOL ! But I knew he was right. But I did copy a couple of pictures over to my PC of his face before the unfriending occured. And I will use them to ground when I am going through the hard parts. It is comforting to just be able to pull us his face and see his eyes and know for a fact that at least one human in this world really knows what pain I am in. Even if I am having to pay him to know it - well it is still one person which is way more than the ZERO persons who knew!
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Dec 13, 2009, 05:50 PM
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I know, Mike is short for Michael However if you google Mike George or Michael George, They are not the same person. So on the internet, it's a big deal... I guess I over reacted. Since I think I have this thing about I can read ppl's mind... I thought he was telling me "If you have been googling me as Mike, you won't find anything. that's not me, you have to type Michael" I know... I am paranoid and distorted... so I take meds. DUH |
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Dec 13, 2009, 08:46 PM
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My T has facebook. I have looked at his fb page. A couple of days ago there was a pic of him from like 20 years ago with comments from women who knew him then like "(treehouse's T) was such a stud!" and "I think I need some therapy" and "he can be my therapist ANY time"
OMG  I am ALL done looking at T's FB page. AND he changed his privacy settings . I'm glad he changed them, because while it was public, it was a little hard to resist....
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Dec 13, 2009, 10:16 PM
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This thread has been fun to read. I have found both dt and ftt on the web. Dt is ALL OVER the place, but only in regard to professional stuff. But she is out there. Ftt is only in 1 place and it is the psych group she works with. I never have too much luck stalking anyone on the net. Maybe Im a lousy stalker and just dont know how to do it?
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Dec 14, 2009, 12:03 AM
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Pipl.com!!
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Dec 14, 2009, 01:04 AM
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ha ha! I used that site to make myself less able to be found on the net. I was suprised how easy it was to find me and how much there was on there considering my last name is a more common last name.
It had all my private profiles come up but not much of my professional achievements. rude! Any way so you should all pipl search yourselves.
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Dec 14, 2009, 01:07 AM
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that way you can see what T can see about you.
Btw i'm stil going to stalk my T and pdoc in a non freak, non weird, non illegal way.
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Dec 14, 2009, 01:56 AM
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pipl.com is quite cool
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