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This is going to be a positive T post
![]() ![]() I really think my T is the perfect T for me. Back at the beginning, she tried so hard to reach me, to meet me where I was rather than saying I had to do this or that, even when I didn’t know how to talk or reflect very well. I think she would read my facial expressions, and try to guess what I felt, since I couldn’t put it into words yet. And she was always a couple steps ahead of me, she would help narrate what I was feeling or what was happening (mirroring?). It’s always made me feel like she cared about me and how I felt and was interested. And then when I started wanting to connect to her, it was overwhelming sometimes. Like lots of people post about, having difficulty with breaks, assuming she was thinking negative things about me, assuming that if she didn’t do X, then it must mean Y, etc. She was so understanding. She was so generous with out of session communication. She was so upfront and responsible. She told me from the start that she didn’t mind it, that she wanted me to connect with her, that she could take care of herself, and that she knew that over time things would even out. We talked about lots of hard things – the connection being some of the hardest and that which caused the most ruptures. But we made an agreement that I wouldn’t just walk away, that we’d work through things, and since then we have. Now things are so calm. I just feel supported, but not desperate. I don’t second guess her much at all. I don’t assume everything she does is an indication of her thinking something bad about me – I know that some things she does have nothing to do with me. I don’t lean on her very much for out of session contact, even though she doesn’t mind it. I feel like I can hold things and just look forward to sharing them in session now. I don’t know exactly how things got here, and I can’t promise we’ll never have another rupture, but I do think there’s been some growth here, that I’ve grown to the point where I feel secure in the relationship, that I don’t doubt it or need to test it all the time. It’s a nice place to be and leaves me more energy for some other big things in my life. And I’ll stay in therapy for now. My T doesn’t mind and I still feel like I can learn from her, that she models certain things and that I value her take on other things. But things are good and I just wanted to share a positive T post. Maybe it will be encouraging for someone going through one of the harder T moments, to know that it is possible to come back out on the other side. Good wishes to all on their therapy journeys... ![]() |
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notme9 glad to hear that your feeling really good about your T and the therapy process. I think sometimes we get so caught up in the FIXING part of therapy that we forget to acknowledge our progress and when something really feels nice in the present. Thanks for sharing this, as I read it I found myself thinking at points, hmmm I can also say that about my T too. So, your gratitude share help me feel gratitude too. Thanks!
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Thank you for posting that (((((((((((((notme)))))))))))))!!
I've been through many of the same experiences that you described in your post...it is such a gift to have a T who is willing and able to help us work through all of that. I love hearing where you are at now! Yes, there may be more ruptures, but if there are, you will have a better understanding of how to work through them, and the knowledge that you can get back to this safe, connected place in the end. Thank you for sharing! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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Thank you for your good wishes and for posting about your journey.
It was very encouraging to read about where you are and how that feels ![]() |
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Oh my gosh, notme, what an amazing post! I hope someday I can say the same thing. It sounds like you've been through a lot with your T. How long have you been in therapy with her?
Thanks so much for sharing. I'm more in a place like your earlier stages, but I'm truly hoping that in the future I can be so positive, so confident, about things. |
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