[homealone]

Where does a client molested by a therapist turn for therapy to get over the therapy ?

Sorry for the waste of space, but I just posted this question on the sexuality and gender board before I saw this one.

[rainbow8]

Homealone, I am so sorry if this has happened to you. It never should, but unfortunately Ts are not perfect. I think any T who molests a client should be reported to the proper agency, first of all.

As for who to go to, my answer is to go to another T, one you've searched out very carefully, and who you feel comfortable with who knows what happened. I've seen Ts to "get over" the transference feelings I had with a previous T, and it helped me. It's unfortunate to have to see a new T to get over the mistakes another T made, but I think that's the only solution. You have to work out the issues brought by the violation.

Keep posting here if it helps you. Safe hugs, if that's okay.

[moonrise]

You could also contact the board of where your old T has their license - they could probably give you some good names. Try any major universities near you - their psychology/social work/psychiatry departments may have some names, as well.

I'm sorry that happened to you.

[jennaorgana]

i agree with moonrise in that university departments usually garner the best results, T wise. maybe even a trauma IOP... that would for sure be helpful.

hugs from me.. i am so sorry if this happened to you... that's unimaginable

This happened to me many years ago, homealone. I'm so sorry you have to ask this question

I am seeing a T right now that I trust to not hurt me in that way again. I told him right when we started working together what had happened in the past (it was with a minister who I was seeing for counselling) and he has been EXTREMELY respectful of my boundaries. I think I can honestly say that I've worked through what happened with the minister now, and put it behind me. So it is possible.

Safe hugs to you

[emilyjeanne]

Originally Posted by treehouse

This happened to me many years ago, homealone. I'm so sorry you have to ask this question

I am seeing a T right now that I trust to not hurt me in that way again. I told him right when we started working together what had happened in the past (it was with a minister who I was seeing for counselling) and he has been EXTREMELY respectful of my boundaries. I think I can honestly say that I've worked through what happened with the minister now, and put it behind me. So it is possible.

Safe hugs to you

I agree with Tree. I also have had this experience. The first step is to find a new T. You need to process what happened. I do not recommend calling the licensing board at this time. I did that to my former T. It is extremely hard and emotionally draining. I would only recommend doing it after you have connected with a new T and have support.

[homealone]

I suppose I should add enough background to give a usable picture.

The molestation happened when I was 17 and wanting to drop out of school due to social phobia and an extreme anxiety around females, that was a result of being abandoned years before by my mother after we had been sexual up to about the age of 12.

It was 1973 and the new age social worker my father (a psych social worker himself) sent me to see was just off the Gaskin hippie farm in middle Tenn. Her favorite text was a new free thinking book, 'The Joy Of Sex'.

I am 53 today and male. I have seen over 30 of these pseudo professionals over the years post, everything from garden variety social workers and emdr, to board cert'd psychiatric fellows and major tranquilizers.
I am an RN (retired) and worked several years for my home state in different agencies, and I have a thorough working knowledge of the the states board of registry.
I've even filed a complaint there against a 'forensic' psychologist who had a mentally ill female client roll up a magazine and shout repeatedly in my ear in front of her female therapy group one night.

The biggest hurdle is discovering an individual who realizes just how anti-male this society has become and not force me to take the perspective that being publicly raped by a paid prostitute the social worker had me taken to is not the damned Rite of Passage they describe it as.

My mental stability is purely a result of being shut out and ridiculed by a female sympathetic mental health industry, and I have benefited greatly from their debasement and negligence, instead of being held victim to it like so many are.

I have probably the best BC/BS medical and behavioral insurance available anywhere today. But........ I refuse to subsidize this God forsaken industry another session.

I'm searching for the other victims of this industry.

Tom S.

[BlueMoon6]

Tom- I wasnt sure whether to respond to this thread or not. I usually dont get into it. I had the same experience with a male therapist. I am (almost) 51 and I was seeing a therapist for 10 yrs when I was in my 20s. He was a "free thinking" love the one youre with kind of guy who I adored. The relationship became sexual soon after beginning therapy with him. I was young and adoring and didnt have a clue as to boundaries. The fact that he did help me in many ways confused me as well. The whole thing leaves me confused.

But it was a long time ago and my life is very different today. I didnt think for a second about contacting any professional organization about this. I dont want to go there with myself or with him.

I should say, though, that talking about it with another therapist did help me to understand what and why things should not have happened as they did.

[homealone]

Blue Moon;
Realize those 'free thinking' outcast of the sexual revolution were drawn to this industry once they found they to support themselves in the late 60's 70's. This has been a pandoras playground for them, even today.
There can be no record of how many teenage children will be raped and molested today after being dropped off after school, for a weekly coping session for family dysfunction and missing parents of divorce.
No one wanted to acknowledge the problem between middle and high school teachers and juvenile males until Mary K. Letourneau and Pamela Rogers.
But not at all different anywhere predators exist, their is a problem and it continues to thrive on lack of outside oversight and professional policing.

I could go on about their EMDR, but the ones marketing the internet, are looking for every opportunity to censor me.

Thank you for responding. Networking with their other victims is most therapeutic for me by dispelling the lie that this is a rare occurrence and I am the only person who considers themself a victim because they were publicly raped by their social worker.

Tom S.

[kitten16]

Tom, you've said you were publicly raped...what does that mean, if you don't mind going into it? Were you raped while others were present? Did anyone else report the incident? I'm just trying to get a clearer picture of what happened to you...

Thanks,
K.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by homealone

Where does a client molested by a therapist turn for therapy to get over the therapy ?

What you describe about the public rape sounds horribly traumatic. Perhaps a male therapist who specializes in trauma could help. It sounds like if you saw a female, you might feel she was against you, so a male might be safer. Above all, it sounds like you might benefit from seeing someone who sees you as an individual, rather than as a representative of your gender. For example, I see a male therapist, and I have observed him "in action" with both males and females and not noticed a favoritism or discrimination.

Good luck with your search for healing.

Do you consider all therapists "pseudo-professionals" or is that a term you reserve for those that molest clients?

[homealone]

[quote=kitten16;1290835]Tom, you've said you were publicly raped...what does that mean, if you don't mind going into it? Were you raped while others were present? Did anyone else report the incident? I'm just trying to get a clearer picture of what happened to you...

Kitten (I wish folk would use first names at least, even if fictitious)

Yes. And I do mind getting into it.

You should post *trigger warning*

After a month of avoiding the social workers advances in her office and once at her apt where I went for a book she wanted me to read, she arranged for me to be taken to a massage parlor, early spring 1973. All in the name of desensitization therapy I'm sure.
It was 1 block off Broadway on 2nd ave in downtown Nashville Tn. Next door to Norris & Qualls Hardware and down the street from Washington Mfg. Co., all now gone. The building has been torn down, but the floor of the massage therapy place still exists today and is part of the outside patio of the Wild Horse Saloon. I've shown it to my wife in recent years. To see the spot you were raped.

The people walking on 2nd ave probably did not see us, but the man who ran the place and the other 'therapists' got to laugh and jeer while I stood naked made to perform on this girl. And the social worker father got to view as well.

Any further questions ?
Tom

[homealone]

Do you consider all therapists "pseudo-professionals" or is that a term you reserve for those that molest clients?
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It's reserved for rapist and those in the field for self gratifying reasons.

[homealone]

Did anyone else report the incident?
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Sorry Ms.Kitten, I was caught up in your other questions and overlooked this.

What incident ?
Tom S.

[homealone]

And seeing the Oprah Winfrey show yesterday 2-15-10 is not helping me either.

Tom S.

Originally Posted by homealone

Do you consider all therapists "pseudo-professionals" or is that a term you reserve for those that molest clients?
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It's reserved for rapist and those in the field for self gratifying reasons.

"self-gratifying" reasons. What do you mean? I am a teacher, and my profession gives me a great deal of self-gratification. I would assume my t gets a great deal of gratification out of his profession or he would not stay in the profession. The reason I'm asking, is that (and perhaps I am misinterpreting what you have been saying and if so I apologize) you seem to see the mental health profession as a completely corrupt "pseudo-profession". Do you lump all therapists in the same basket? You do refer to it as a "god forsaken industry".

I am sympathetic to what you have been through, truly I am, but I'm pretty sure I don't share your view of the mental health profession.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by homealone

Do you consider all therapists "pseudo-professionals" or is that a term you reserve for those that molest clients?
_________________

It's reserved for rapist and those in the field for self gratifying reasons.

What a horrible coincidence that 30 of the mental health providers you saw were rapists and "self-gratifiers." (I am assuming you mean self-gratifying to the detriment of the patient rather than in the sense farmergirl mentioned.) I have seen 4 different mental health professionals in my life, and none of them was like that. I have also seen 20 or more different doctors, physical therapists, nurse practitioners, etc. in my life, and again, none were rapists/SGs.

I am sorry for your horrific experience and hope you can find help.

[kitten16]

Tom, you said you were publicly raped in a couple of different posts -- just put it out there without clarifcation. I did see your post where you explain what happened.

This is tragic, and I simply followed up with you on it. If you don't want to "get into" what happened to you, why are you constantly bringing it up?

We're trying to help. Please don't attack me for expressing concern or asking for clarification.

[quote=homealone;1291640]

Originally Posted by kitten16

Tom, you've said you were publicly raped...what does that mean, if you don't mind going into it? Were you raped while others were present? Did anyone else report the incident? I'm just trying to get a clearer picture of what happened to you...

Kitten (I wish folk would use first names at least, even if fictitious)

Yes. And I do mind getting into it.

You should post *trigger warning*

After a month of avoiding the social workers advances in her office and once at her apt where I went for a book she wanted me to read, she arranged for me to be taken to a massage parlor, early spring 1973. All in the name of desensitization therapy I'm sure.
It was 1 block off Broadway on 2nd ave in downtown Nashville Tn. Next door to Norris & Qualls Hardware and down the street from Washington Mfg. Co., all now gone. The building has been torn down, but the floor of the massage therapy place still exists today and is part of the outside patio of the Wild Horse Saloon. I've shown it to my wife in recent years. To see the spot you were raped.

The people walking on 2nd ave probably did not see us, but the man who ran the place and the other 'therapists' got to laugh and jeer while I stood naked made to perform on this girl. And the social worker father got to view as well.

Any further questions ?
Tom