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Next appt is still 12 days off ...
this morning I was mentally listing the "issues" by which my life keeps getting tripped up, and when I got to six, I was startled by a thought that only half an hour earlier I had been considering quitting, since I really don't know what I am supposed to do in next session. This seems like a lack of focus. Maybe due to the long time interval (a month, yikes). Or maybe it's just one more facet of self hatred teling myself that I am wasting T's time, and SHE would rather that I quit. Does anyone else ever have widely fluctuating feelings about "I really need to do this" and "I really don't need to do this" ? |
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#3
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Sitting, Yes.
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((((((((((sawe)))))))))))
Yes, I absolutely have gone back and forth between thinking I don't need therapy and thinking I can't live without it. For me, it seems like the times when I think I don't need therapy are times when I am trying to avoid something. The thing is, I *really* feel at those moments that I don't need therapy...and then I'll talk to T about it, and things will come up, and I'll realize that it was just my subconscious trying to avoid the yuck. I really am grateful now that I never quit at any of the times when I had that feeling, because I imagine I would be stuck at the level of healing I was at when I quit. I'm glad that I am giving myself a chance to heal. I don't think that it's a matter of a "lack of focus". Therapy is hard. We are dealing with our past, our present, and our future in these little 50 minute chunks of time. I know that for me, sometimes it's just a big swirly mess and it's SO hard to pick out what's the most important. I really do believe that just showing up, week after week, month after month, is half the battle. What if you talked to T about how you're feeling? ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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I seem to vacillate between really wanting therapy and really wanting to not want therapy.
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so... it's not healing ... it's really just avoidance again, under another guise?
![]() avoidance... that might figure... I say I don't know where we go in next session after all this time, but I have a lurking suspicion that we are at a point (again) where I have to think & talk about what T calls "self forgiveness" and it is like those words are in some language I cannot understand. I can feel the anxiety just typing it out. how can you possibly get anything done in an hour after an interval of four weeks? I hate the one hour chunk. whoever thought that up I demand a recount. ![]() |
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OMG i think like this all the time because i have such a hard time talking.before i can even do any work i need to get over this and it has been about 7 months now.i always feel im wasting my T time but i guess if i was she would tell me
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![]() Only you can figure out if it's avoidance. Sometimes it has been for ME, but that doesn't mean that that is YOUR truth. And, good news...at this point, I would say with a fair amount of confidence that I need T less because of healing, and not avoidance. The same could easily be true for you ![]() One hour every 4 weeks is not very much. That sounds REALLY hard. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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