T hunt (in more than one way)

Wow, all these words! Words, words, words! I am definitely an action person. I have frequently jumped in only half knowing what was going on, scared as hell, but knowing that this was the only way I was going to resolve my issue.

Pachy, it is like you are walking and walking and walking around a pool and you won't get in but you are constantly contemplating it. In addition you are talking, talking, talking about the presumed temperature of the pool, what it would feel like, all the possible consequences of your decisions, etc. I would be the one who would sneak up behind and push you in!

I understand what you have been through (only what you have told us of course!) and how triggered that you get, though...........

So if T always says the right things you feel this would be good therapy for you pachy?

The thing is we learn the most from going through the triggers. Surely you have read many threads here where people have talked about 'ruptures' with their T's. It's a necessary part of therapy to go through this stuff.

As I said before you will need to be taught good coping stratergies before going in to the triggery stuff, then (in your view) the T will say the 'wrong' things. Obviously you don't need the T going for the jugular straight away.

I think I have also mentioned to you before a technique T's use called, 'Columbo-ing' which is where the T will purposely 'put their foot in it' in order to get a reaction from you. Patient sits there thinking, 'God, this T is an idiot!' But it is another useful technique to get the patient to figure things out.

Pachy keep talking! You are doing well!

Depends what what you mean by a T saying the "right" things!

I have learned even from the "wrong" things, where a T misses the mark badly -- at times. But as you said and others have said, stress/strain from the "wrong" things should not be allowed to get out of control ("going for the jugular") , because beyond a certain point, if mistakes are made, they can lead downwards instead of upwards.