Crossing the line in therapy....

I agree with Lost. How are you feeling about it? It is how you are feeling that is important. Does this make you feel less panicky? More panicky? The same? How do the different options he has suggested (going slowly, putting off discussion, discussing it, not doing anything etc.) make you feel? Which one makes you feel the best/most comfortable?

Honestly, I don't know how I feel about it. But I do feel less panicky, now that I addressed my feelings with him.

(And yes, my T is gestalt-based.)

I still have a whirlwind of emotions going through me - the what if's and different scenarios that could arise from all this.

I could also see myself using this as an opportunity to not deal with my issues anymore in therapy because T wouldn't be my T anymore....ACK. Now, that couldn't possibly be in my best interest.

I have a lot to think about - and T and I have a lot to talk about. I just need to prepare myself to be brave - to be as honest as possible about my feelings - so we can work through this....I don't know where this will lead, but without me being honest and addressing what it stirs up for me, it will only be detrimental for me.

I see T tomorrow night at group - but we won't be talking about this....that'll be uncomfortable....and my next session with T is on Thursday.

Did he say if you do the business relationship, he would have to stop being your T? I agree, that would not be in your best interest if he made you drop him as your T! If you try to do the two roles simultaneously, would you be able to keep the roles fairly separate? So when you go to his office for therapy, you don't end up talking business, and vice versa? Well, you probably don't know all that yet, but that might be one thing to discuss with him if you decide to go ahead and give it a try.

I hope Thursday comes quickly. How is group going these days? Would you ever want to talk about this at group? Do you think their perspective would have any value, since they know both you and your T?