[bpd mess]

never mind

[racee]

i'm sorry you felt like not posting anymore i have done that quite a few times, either because i was embarresed on what i said or thought about it and thought no one would care anyways or say that no one was posting and was in a frame of mind that it was a stupid post so i took it down!

[WePow]

((((bpd mess))))

[bpd mess]

It was about a major rupture with my t. It's all better now. She tried to change the rules about email and stuff during the week without telling me. She's the one that encourages me to e-journal and email it to her, but then she decided she wouldn't respond to anything and didn't tell me she was stopping and why. I really freaked out. After I blew up at her about it, she admitted that she screwed up. She took responsibility for handling it wrong and apologized. I was floored. I figured I'ld get blamed for the whole thing like I always have been in the past (with other people, not her).

[WePow]

((((((bpd mess)))))) boy do I feel with you about THAT topic!!!
I hate it when T changes the rules on us. It is so hard.
I am sorry you had that happen.
I am very glad your T took responsibility for this and worked it out with you.

[bpd mess]

Originally Posted by WePow

((((((bpd mess)))))) boy do I feel with you about THAT topic!!!
I hate it when T changes the rules on us. It is so hard.
I am sorry you had that happen.
I am very glad your T took responsibility for this and worked it out with you.

((((wepow)))) i read in your thread that you have a similar issue with your t. i'm sorry you had that happen as well. i expect things like that from other people, but not from my t. i guess i'm learning that she isn't any more perfect than the rest of us. i sure wish she was perfect and had all the answers. if you find that t, let me know.

[WePow]

bpd mess, I will never find that T because this is it. I will never again expose myself to this type of anguish. Never. I can't do it. I thought that it was safe to do with the right one - with someone who I felt I could trust. Not just a T.
I can't now... I just can't do that ever again. Not to this level.

I WANT to never ever see him again. But dang it - I put in a lot of effort into having him SEE who I am. He knows ME. So even if I get hurt by him, I still need him to help me make it. Maybe it can only be face to face. And maybe my path will just be harder. But I have to do what I need to do.

[bpd mess]

Originally Posted by WePow

bpd mess, I will never find that T because this is it. I will never again expose myself to this type of anguish. Never. I can't do it. I thought that it was safe to do with the right one - with someone who I felt I could trust. Not just a T.
I can't now... I just can't do that ever again. Not to this level.

I WANT to never ever see him again. But dang it - I put in a lot of effort into having him SEE who I am. He knows ME. So even if I get hurt by him, I still need him to help me make it. Maybe it can only be face to face. And maybe my path will just be harder. But I have to do what I need to do.

((((wepow))))
i know this is sooooo hard. i won't ever see anyone else either. i think my t is trying to get me to share more in session and is working toward not having as much interaction through email because of that. she's fine with me sending it, but i think she's going to cut back on replying anything more than "good writing, print it and bring it in". she just said she cut me off the wrong way by not warning me and moving too quickly for someone with trust issues. i want the rules and i don't want them to change. i'm told that's not realistic in real life.

[elliemay]

WTH?????? Was there a "No email" conference that all the T's went to? Maybe there was a mass email from the APA?

I am so sorry. So so sorry. I share in your hurt and your outrage.

[chicken_wing]

Dude, now that you guys have brought it up about 2 or 3 weeks my T told me to stop emailing her! She said she wanted to reduce our connection? WTF! I just said, OK." How do you respond to that?? I guess she was getting at that I am to dependent on her. Anyway, I was crushed. Frustrated. I felt stifled because I best communicate my feelings through words. She told me to write in a journal if need be!

Last week, I told her I couldn't do it. It wasn't working for me. We came to a compromise that I could email her and she'd read it during our sessions.

[chicken_wing]

I should also say that true to my crazy, the first email I sent to her after the ban was lifted indicated that I wanted to quit seeing her by the end of that week.

And now that I technically can email her (and I am not convinced she would wait to read them at our sessions), I don't even feel like sharing with her anymore.

[rainbow8]

Hey!!!! Me too!! I was going to post the same thing, elliemay! I think all the Ts got together and decided they were going to protest client emails!! It was just a few weeks ago when mine wanted to take them away, and I said "NO".

She agreed to 1 per week, which is the way it used to be before I went overboard!

[WePow]

((((((Chickenwing))))))))))

well, my T did say he got the idea from his T training course. T's have to attend those things to stay all certified and such. So I think our T's must have been exposed to the same poison!!!! UGGG!

[chicken_wing]

Thanks Wepow! I am sorry you've had to endure a similar disappointment. I wish we could form a patient/client union and let them see that some of their policies and thinking are wack!

I could accept a reasoning that we are encroaching upon their personal time, but anything else is ridiculous!

[bpd mess]

I guess my t went to the same training. that's crazy that so many had the same idea around the same time. and right before christmas!!! like that isn't already a stressful time. they could have at least waited until january.

[WePow]

bpd mess, you know, I thought the same thing last night! It is like "can't you wait until AFTER the holiday!!" As if many of us don't have a hard enough time this time of year without the stress of T pulling the rug out from under us!!!

[PreacherHeckler]

Oh man... I haven't seen my T yet this week. I see him tomorrow. I hope my T hasn't caught this boundary-changing bug that's going around!

[racee]

wish my p-doc was up with the times and did email....bad sadly she doesn't i can call her whenever i want to but sometinmes i just want to get something out there without a response and talking over the phone feels very awkward. even a text would be cool. my sister emails her umm i guess therapist i'm not sure what she calls her but they email constantly....how wonderful

If you guys could make sure that this weird therapist group decision to change all the rules mid-race could stay on your side of the Atlantic, I'd be very grateful! Absolutely definitely not up for having my heart broken by my T on Christmas eve!

[alcira]

I don't really know what is going on either. My T stopped responding to my e-mail as well without saying anything. It is like she disappeared. She did that once a few months ago and I totally freaked out. After that she's been good about responding even if it was just to acknowledge that she got my e-mail and we can talk about it later. So not sure what happened now... how interesting that so many Ts seem to be having issues with e-mail right now! I wonder what is going on in their T world.

I am trying so hard not to freak out again but it is difficult.