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Old Dec 28, 2010, 10:38 PM
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Discussed breifly with T about self. More so who am I. I don't really know who I am. I do not have a very confident sense of self identity. I am fairly certain what I like and that sort of thing and I don't really change for other people but I am not opposed to trying something new if the opportunity arises. That said I honestly don't know who I am or where my identity comes from. When ask to answer the question "Who am I" I do it in such vague terms that no one really gets to know much except that I am a walking contradiction. The basics are easy. Mother, daughter, sister, student, blah blah blah. But is that really all I am? I like to think I am a little bit deeper than that but I don't know how to access that.

When you are asked that question, how do you answer it? Is there some secret to understanding that part of self?
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Old Dec 29, 2010, 12:29 AM
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I've struggled with this as well, trying to figure out who I am and what my purpose is in life. Unfortunately, I don't know how to answer those questions yet...I'm curious to know how others respond though.
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Old Dec 29, 2010, 12:46 AM
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I had split off so much of my original self that I hadn't any idea about what I liked etc..but saying that who I am now is more about a feeling of self...An awareness of a me being there..this is what I lost due to abandoments etc...since being in therapy and talking and talking, its not just T who has listened, who has witnessed me..that hidden part that is me has too and continues too..theres a me I can believe in now...its not so much about taste etc because that can change..its that hole no longer being there where I should have been...its not needing anything external to define who I am...and that is a wonderful feeling...the wind may blow but I am now rooted...this is the self.
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Old Dec 29, 2010, 05:04 AM
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~I really wish I had some "PING!" sort of answer for you.I don't have one.I can tell you that I live with the same reality on a daily basis.As far as the "Who I am" portion I almost have 5 separate lists of who I am so as to be a novella of who "we are".Ugh...I am sorry you struggle with this issue as I can completely relate.Perhaps it'd be easier to view your self as a prism which reflects a rainbow array of color onto things depending on the angle that light (situations in life) travels through it.Humans are complicated and very multifaceted.If you don't really change for other people...you are doing better than me lol.I am driftwood riding waves...lol.Wish I could help better than that.((((hugs)))~W~
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Old Dec 29, 2010, 05:08 AM
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Wow Melbadaze I think it is awesome that you have reached that juncture in healing! ~W~
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Old Dec 29, 2010, 02:18 PM
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I know that one of my major goals is to be able to be me without needing something external to define it. I definitely define who I am according to what I can do for others and that sort of thing. As for believing in me, that I know will take some serious time.

I too have several lists that have been created according to when. IN some ways, each list is different than the others.
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I have a dream that one day the chicken can cross the road without having his motives questioned

If Jimmy cracks corn and no one cares, why is there a song about it?

I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not. ~Kurt Cobain~

Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are. ~Kurt Cobain~

Insanity is knowing that what you're doing is completely idiotic, but still, somehow, you just can't stop it. ~Elizabeth Wurtzel~
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