Originally Posted by Melbadaze

Personally, I take peoples need for therapy serious, and if some of the stuff written on these boards is true then theres a lot of quacks out there, and this isnt just about your posts, though I do have an issue with what you wrote.

If some of the "lurkers" that were referred to read here and read some of the stuff that gets written here about theraists then I'd imagine a big majority would run for the hills, so I like to weight the board up and point out what I find to be odd actions from therapists.

If we just had a whole board of what you consider to be "therapy" then that wouldn't be a true picture of what a competant qualified therapist is really about. I like to question things, because I'm not as green as I'm cabbage looking.

Melbadaze~You are straight forward at times, but that can be a good thing. I do agree with you on this one. I haven't commented because I didn't know what to say. I was a bit 'freaked out' at the thought that a therapist would do this. The whole confidentiality thing came to mind.

We do talk pretty frank on here and I hope that we don't send a new comer running for the hills. On the other hand, we all tell it like it is in therapy. The good, the bad, and the ugly. I hope that any newcomers will see this and not be too frightened. I wouldn't want us to be too censored on here. I just trust that the moderators are doing their job and they make the decision about whether or not to remove a post.

Obviously this thread was started to lighten up the negative energy that was smothering this message board. This didn't work for me, but it did for others. We all have a different sense of humor and I try to respect that.

I wonder if I have offended or run off anyone with things I post? I know that I can be really raw with my emotions and what I think about therapy. I hope that if I do say something that may be offensive to anyone, someone will bring it to my attention.

PTSDlovemycats~you seem to have a great relationship with your therapist. If this gave you a good laugh and did not hinder your relationship, that's what matters the most. Humor is healing. What one considers humor, another may not. I don't think you meant any harm in posting this.

I am a peacemaker, so I hope that I don't get attacked by anyone for putting my 2 cents in on this.

[PTSDlovemycats]

Originally Posted by Squiggle328

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PTSDlovemycats~you seem to have a great relationship with your therapist. If this gave you a good laugh and did not hinder your relationship, that's what matters the most. Humor is healing. What one considers humor, another may not. I don't think you meant any harm in posting this.

I am a peacemaker, so I hope that I don't get attacked by anyone for putting my 2 cents in on this.

Squiggle- Thanks Squiggle, lightening the mood was what I was trying to do and I think that I did achieve that for a few anyway. I definitely did not mean any harm. No attack from me Squiggle!

Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats

Squiggle- Thanks Squiggle, lightening the mood was what I was trying to do and I think that I did achieve that for a few anyway. I definitely did not mean any harm. No attack from me Squiggle!

Good! I sure did not want to offend you.

[PTSDlovemycats]

Originally Posted by Squiggle328

Good! I sure did not want to offend you.

Oh Squiggle It would take a lot more than that for me to be offended by you. lol. BTW I just replied to your question you asked in another thread...

[Melbadaze]

Squiggly, yes I do tend to speak my mind. Here's a thought, say PTSD really feels uncomfortable with what her T did. Accept lacks the inner strenght to confront it and instead uses humour to pass it off? Why start a humour thread using such a curiuos incident? And rerally is looking for someone to say, well actually that really wasn't taking care of you and yourt welbeing? There seems a curious attempt to keep this funny, to keep it ok and others agreeing that it was funny only really add to the inner confusion, keep the mask on? Just a thoughtm

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by Improving

^^ I LOVE the idea of drawing a clock- especially since you'd never have to leave- the time would never change so it would eternally be your therapy hour

I already thought of that, Improving, I guess our minds work alike... scary...
I so have a watch, I just dislike wearing one. I am reduced to taking my cell in there and looking at the time now and then.

[PTSDlovemycats]

Originally Posted by Melbadaze

Squiggly, yes I do tend to speak my mind. Here's a thought, say PTSD really feels uncomfortable with what her T did. Accept lacks the inner strenght to confront it and instead uses humour to pass it off? There seems a curious attempt to keep this funny, to keep it ok and others agreeing that it was funny only really add to the inner confusion, keep the mask on? Just a thoughtm

Really?? So now not am I only emotional dishonest, now I lack inner strength?? I have no inner confusion and i am not wearing a mask.

[PTSDlovemycats]

I just want to reiterate that the first part of this title was FUN THREAD.

It was not meant to trigger, harm, or hurt anyone. It was made to share some FUN stories on a POSITIVE note. There has been a lot of negative threads -and I do realize where we are posting and I am sensitive to the fact that most of us have a lot going on and it is not all rainbows and lemon drops so I respect the threads that everybody posts.

The situation that occured between my T and I was several years ago. I am FINE with it. I feel very strong and able to speak what I need and want to with my T and feel comfortable to challenge T if I feel that is neccessary and vice versa. As I said before I believe that we are ALL guilty of making mistakes, yet we move on from them and learn from them. It is not a weakness.

If I truly felt that what happened was an issue for me or if I was concerned I would have mentioned it to my T 2yrs ago when it happened, I would not have turned it into a funny thread on here waiting and wishing that someone would tell me that what happened was wrong. I believe that I am stronger than that. My thread probably would have said something like "worried about what T did to me last night" similar to the thread that I started titled "T followed me" which in fact was about me being very confused about something that T did and after posting on here I talked to her about it in the next session that I saw her. It was not turned into a humorus thread eg "T is my shadow.." or something like that. I am glad that many enjoyed this thread yet also a little upset with a few of the replies.

On that note to each his own, these are the risks we get when we post and reply to threads. I wish each and everyone of you a wonderful journey on your road to better mental health.

Sincerely, Cats.

[granite1]

just want to say i love your fun posts and please dont let someone who is board and feels the need to use these posts for personal entertainment deter you from continuing with posting.

[Melbadaze]

Granite, Do you mean bored or board?

[granite1]

oooopppppssss did i make a boo boo

[Melbadaze]

All part of the drama

[deliquesce]

Originally Posted by granite1

oooopppppssss did i make a boo boo

but only one compared to the many others a certain "board" poster has been making .

[Melbadaze]

Originally Posted by deliquesce

but only one compared to the many others a certain "board" poster has been making .

I'm honoured you have been keenly reading my posts!

[PTSDlovemycats]

Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats

Really?? So now not am I only emotional dishonest, now I lack inner strength?? I have no inner confusion and i am not wearing a mask.

I still haven't received an answer this yet Melbadaze

[PTSDlovemycats]

Originally Posted by granite1

just want to say i love your fun posts and please dont let someone who is board and feels the need to use these posts for personal entertainment deter you from continuing with posting.

Granite, thanks for your kind words!

[PTSDlovemycats]

Originally Posted by Melbadaze

I'm honoured you have been keenly reading my posts!

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[PTSDlovemycats]

Originally Posted by granite1

oooopppppssss did i make a boo boo

Nothing big and unforgivable!

[Melbadaze]

Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats

I still haven't received an answer this yet Melbadaze

Yes that is true

[PTSDlovemycats]

Originally Posted by Melbadaze

Yes that is true

Are you planning on answering??

Is there some drama going on in here? This kind of stuff bothers me. I know that you might not mean any harm, but to 'peace makers' like me, I hate to see this kind of thing go on in this forum.

I guess I could just not look into this thread anymore and that would solve it, wouldn't it? I wonder if tiffs can be taken to PMs instead of acting it out in the main forum? Then again, I am just one of many in here. The others may enjoy this kind of thing, but I don't. I don't like to see people argue. My job as a teacher is to make sure that we all get along. Can we all get along in here?

Call it a truce and let it go? I am not for either side. I see both points of view, but I wish this would play out somewhere else. Then again, I can quit looking at this thread and that would solve it for me.

No offense to anyone. If you tell me to shut up, I may get my feelings hurt, but that's okay. I will shut up!

[SpiritRunner]

Originally Posted by Squiggle328

Is there some drama going on in here? This kind of stuff bothers me. I know that you might not mean any harm, but to 'peace makers' like me, I hate to see this kind of thing go on in this forum.

I guess I could just not look into this thread anymore and that would solve it, wouldn't it? I wonder if tiffs can be taken to PMs instead of acting it out in the main forum? Then again, I am just one of many in here. The others may enjoy this kind of thing, but I don't. I don't like to see people argue. My job as a teacher is to make sure that we all get along. Can we all get along in here?

Call it a truce and let it go? I am not for either side. I see both points of view, but I wish this would play out somewhere else. Then again, I can quit looking at this thread and that would solve it for me.

No offense to anyone. If you tell me to shut up, I may get my feelings hurt, but that's okay. I will shut up!

I do agree with you that in many cases a PM is a much better way to get ?s answered or resolve issues one poster may have with another or for pointing out negative tendencies noticed, etc. ..... and I'd rather not see lots of tiffs/drama either.
However, I am sort of interested in the answer to this question though, and think the question is valid. Sometimes it's OK to ask for direct answers publicly ..... I don't see that anyone has been too naughty or confrontational and I've been sort of amused actually............however, don't take that to mean I generally enjoy drama and angst and spouting off or sarcastic exchanges! (I'm just in a weird, silly, slightly manic mood today and maybe am finding things funny I wouldn't so much usually....)

Originally Posted by poetgirl76

However, I am sort of interested in the answer to this question though, and think the question is valid. Sometimes it's OK to ask for direct answers publicly

What exactly is the question? Is the question really valid and worthy of so much attention? Is this thread spreading because of a genuine need to know the answer to something, or is it because people just want to see who wins?

Maybe I am just not getting it. I remember awhile back when I posted something and felt like I got slammed. It wasn't a good feeling for me at all, and sent me to a dark place pretty quick. I assume both parties here are strong enough to tackle this and fight it out without adding any emotional trauma to themselves.

Maybe I have some kind of suppressed emotions about things like this. Bullied as a child? Bullied as a young adult? It bothers me tremendously to see people fuss, argue, and belittle one another. I am not saying this thread has gotten to that point. Just making a comment that this actually could be a trigger for some.

May sound stupid to you guys, but I wish this stuff did not play out on PC. Melbadaze brought out that we need to think about others who come on here looking for help and we don't want to give them the wrong idea about therapy. She had a very valid point. I agreed with her.

I also think that PSTDlovemycats was just trying to lighten the mood of this depressive message board. You have to admit, she has a point. 98% of the threads started here are about negative things (anxiety, fear, abandonment, disappointment, transference, etc..) Fun threads are a good thing at times.

Having the freedom of expression is a great thing, but we also need to think about fragile people coming in here and being subjected to needless fussing.

Yes, I know. I am taking this way too serious! Been a hard week. Dealing with fighting, bullying, and out of control kids!! The last thing I want to do is come on here and see adults doing the same thing.

Okay, Shut up Squiggle!! Get back in you cage.........I am going back to the birdseed..........and will visit poetgirl's cage who is adjoined to mine! Hey, poetgirl, I'm back. Can we talk about sex? BTW, have you ever seen two birds going at it? I have. It is quite a site to see! The male just won't let up until she raises her tail feathers and let's him have his way...I think I am in need of some serious help!

[SpiritRunner]

Originally Posted by Squiggle328

What exactly is the question? Is the question really valid and worthy of so much attention? Is this thread spreading because of a genuine need to know the answer to something, or is it because people just want to see who wins?

Maybe I am just not getting it. I remember awhile back when I posted something and felt like I got slammed. It wasn't a good feeling for me at all, and sent me to a dark place pretty quick. I assume both parties here are strong enough to tackle this and fight it out without adding any emotional trauma to themselves.

Maybe I have some kind of suppressed emotions about things like this. Bullied as a child? Bullied as a young adult? It bothers me tremendously to see people fuss, argue, and belittle one another. I am not saying this thread has gotten to that point. Just making a comment that this actually could be a trigger for some.

May sound stupid to you guys, but I wish this stuff did not play out on PC. Melbadaze brought out that we need to think about others who come on here looking for help and we don't want to give them the wrong idea about therapy. She had a very valid point. I agreed with her.

I also think that PSTDlovemycats was just trying to lighten the mood of this depressive message board. You have to admit, she has a point. 98% of the threads started here are about negative things (anxiety, fear, abandonment, disapointment, transference, etc..) Fun threads are a good thing at times.

Having the freedom of expression is a great thing, but we also need to think about fragile people coming in here and being subjected to needless fussing.

Yes, I know. I am taking this way too serious! Been a hard week. Dealing with fighting, bullying, and out of control kids!! The last thing I want to do is come on here and see adults doing the same thing.

Okay, Shut up Squiggle!! Get back in you cage.........I am going back to the birdseed..........and will visit poetgirl's cage who is adjoined to mine! Hey, poetgirl, I'm back. Can we talk about sex? BTW, have you even seen two birds going at it? I have. It is quite a site to see! The male just won't let up until she raises her tail feathers and let's him have his way...I think I am in need of some serious help!

You do make valid points, squiggle.....I'm not saying you're taking things too seriously either. I would feel badly if my thread degenerated into an off-topic exchange too....and if I felt like someone was judging what I shared or making a judgment of me based on what I shared, I'd want to understand it better, too. I'm sorry what was supposed to be a 'fun thread' turned into sort of a debate about the ethics of someone's therapist, about why something was funny or not, whether someone should have thought it was funny or not, or what their hidden feeling might really be, and even whether or not someone should ask someone else to answer a question about their post....but then I guess it happens in real life, too. And it's OK to ask for answers.....guess I'm just saying if someone wants to publicly ask for clarification of someone else's post on their thread, it's OK....as long as it stays reasonable and non-confrontational. I agree, fussing, arguing, jabbing, attacking, being defensive serves no purpose...
Anyway, I need to go back to my cage, too.....I feel like I've hijacked the thread and gotten off-topic too.....I should maybe be more quiet until I get down off this weird high I'm on and get my wits and better judgment back in order! (maybe this would be a fun time to talk about sex though since my inhibitions are a bit lower than usual )

[SpiritRunner]

anyway, to put it back on-topic, you know T's been thinking about you when she calls to tell you've been on her mind and she hopes you're OK after an intense session ..... or when she says, I was in the store the other day and got something for you! (that being the modeling clay she got for me when I was having anger/SI issues.....)