Oops..I had an accident...

I had some problems with bed-wetting that started around age 6-7. That was when some more trauma happened. I can remember hiding my underpants in my toy box until the morning and I could sneak them into the laundry. And I still have these dreams that seem VERY real that I am wetting the bed at night. I THINK that I am wetting the bed, but when I wake up, everything is still dry. The bed-wetting dreams happen when I've been dreaming about the trauma stuff so I guess they are still related after all these years.

No, not yet. He has NO idea...

I'm scared to tell him. I don't want him to laugh at me. He has 2 kids. I don't know if any of them ever wet their beds...If they did that could make it a little bit easier...These things just don't normally pop up in everyday conversation unfortunately...

Thanks for sharing. I just wish that I was 6 and had this happening not 30. My parents don't know about it. The only one that does know is my Pdoc and the specialists that she sent me to.

How do I even START that conversation if I am going to have it, which my T is strongly encouraging that I do....

Any ideas?? Anybody??

I really want to be able to spend the night with him, but because of this issue I haven't been able to.

I'm confused. Earlier in this thread you just said that you were single and so this wasn't a problem:


It doesn't seem like you are being honest here.

This is a fairly new relationship.

I'm sorry but i don't believe that ptsd. If that was true, I think you would have mentioned that you just got involved in a relationship since you said you were single just a few pages back. Then it would be a new issue to deal with and i cant see that you wouldnt mention having a "new" boyfriend because you had said that "luckily right now I am single". I think it's more likely that you "forgot" that you mentioned being single (that happens when people are being dishonest). If you are playing games here, please stop it. It's not fair to those who are posting about their own intimate stuff trying to be supportive to you.

I'm just glad that I decided to read back through this entire thread before posting some ideas for you, and exposing my own personal experiences in order to be supportive to you.

Thanks TayQuincy.

I think it is possible there was a misunderstanding, TayQuincy. Maybe when dating someone new it's safer to be a little imprecise. You can keep being "single" for a while because you don't want to count your chickens before they hatch? Just a thought.

I am being honest about this. I have no reason to lie about it,

Thank you for your support LYIB.

The reason I didn't bring this up earlier is because spending the night with him wasn't happening earlier on, Hence why my T wants me to bring this up with him.

I guess the thing is when I originally posted this it wasn't about my realationships and if I was in one or not. It was about the accidents that I am having,,,

Wow, guess I'm from the old school. I didn't see anything dishonest about saying you were single because I still thought single meant unmarried, so having a boyfriend didn't make you any less single. Have times really changed that much?

Hi PTSDlovemycats

Meds have done that to me but also the memories have too. You are not alone. I'm sorry I didn't see this sooner.

Thanks so much Calista12.

This is nothing to be embarrassed about, I think it happens a lot when dealing with stressful situations or dealing with past traumas.

I used to wet the bed my entire childhood and well into my teens almost every night! I thought it would never stop, it eventually did when i was about 14 or 15!

....It's funny how human body functions can be embarrassing when it happens to so many of us that it shouldn't be.

Thanks Dizgirl2011, You are right. Ironically I never wet the bed as a child and this didn't start until after a trauma. I just don't know what to say to my boyfriend about it...

I really need to tell my boyfriend about this...I am hoping to tell him one day this week...

Well, I don't think you have to explain WHY it happens, the personal history part. Many women have some incontinence, hence all the ads for all the products. So you can bring a disposable pad in your overnight bag, tuck it under the sheet, tell him with a shrug "Hm, yeah, just in case I have a little leak. It's a girl thing".
After my kids were born, sometimes just sitting up in the morning with a full bladder - boom. *&%$@*
And, if it does happen when you are there, you can buy him a set of sheets as a gift for your next visit, then put down your pad and put the new sheet over it. You can explain that you are getting treatment but it may take a while for things to improve. Until then, you take precautions.
Good luck!

Thanks for your advice BlackCanary!