[dinosaurs]

i want to reach out and email t but i have no idea what to say. i want to post here and try and fit in a bit but have no idea what to say. i never learnt how to talk about myself to people.

[Can't Stop Crying]

How about starting with...I have no idea what to say. I'm feeling.... I'm thinking....

and just start to write whatever pops into your head, you don't even have to send it just yet, hold it in your drafts file and just put down whatever comes to you. Kinda free- write without even thinking about what your putting down and take it from there?

[granite1]

Dino i totally get this big time.i know we are here if you want to practice what you want to say to T.i know writing here is awesome and the people here help me so much.with this very same thing.

[WikidPissah]

Dino...I have a really difficult time talking, but I found a voice thru writing...just start with the basics..."I feel ____" "This week has been hard because ________" etc, etc. Just write little things. And like granite said, if you want to write a practice letter for T on her go for it, everyone is very helpful.

[ECHOES]

Dinosaurs,

I just want to tell you something you don't know.
When I come to the forum and I see a post from you, I feel excited and say to myself - "Oh look! Dinosaurs is here!"

I post here but don't share a lot about me. It is something I struggle with, putting things to words and feeling like I fit in or am accepted.

I think the more you just come on over and say whatever is on your mind, the more good experiences you have, the easier it will become. This is an amazingly kind place to be.

[SpiritRunner]

Just try stream of consciousness......start with "I feel", "I think".......and see where it goes. SOmetimes I don't know where or how to start so I start with, 'I don't know where to start' and somehow I end up somewhere and actually said something! When I journal for T there are often sentences like that in there, saying, Oh, where do I go now, I don't remember, I can't think of what was next'.......but then that helps jumpstart something that needed to come out....
I too like hearing from you dino!

[lastyearisblank]

I just had this experience in person with support group today, I just didn't know what to say! I am not a big talker unless I have something specific to say. Maybe you are the same way? All I have to say is yes it is awkward to be in a group and not know how to begin. I look at myself through those really dark lenses too sometimes. Just remember, something you have to say may really make a difference for someone. Never be afraid to speak out!
edit to add:
Oh yeah and your "don't know how to talk about myself" really struck a chord for me. I think the really sucky thing about therapy and support sometimes is that we are talking about ourselves in a negative light. Yes it is insight but we're not talking about our passions or hobbies, therapy is not entirely "talking about ourselves," it's often talking about our worst, scariest, selves. It is hard to articulate this depressing stuff about ourselves sometimes, and can feel a bit self indulgent. So.= anyhow, there's my 2 page response to your query I guess.

Good luck!!!!!

[PTSDlovemycats]

Dinos, I have got to know you quite a bit in chat. As for the forums, maybe try replying a bit even if it is only to say that you are unsure of what to say and just want to offer your support or just hitting the thanks button if if helps you. I agree with what the above posters said about emailing your T. You are already trying by posting this thread. You are a wonderful person Dinosaurs. I look forward to seeing more of you on here!

[dinosaurs]

thanks everyone for your replies. there were lots of replies. normally people don't talk back to me that much. i do journal and write out stuff for t already about what i'm thinking and feeling. i don't know how else to explain this. it's not really the normal kind of social anxiety fears about speaking. i know how to counter negative self talk. it's like if i want to tell someone what i've been up to i have no idea what to say. part is probably because i can't remember stuff at all past a day or two and part is because i never learnt how to in my family (like i'd never go home and tell a mum what i'd done at school that day or whatever).

and often i'll have something important to say and say it and then no one responds and you end up feeling like no one understands and a freak and all alone. so if people don't respond to important stuff, how is something inane supposed to interest them. i just don't have a clue how to talk to people.

Originally Posted by ECHOES

Dinosaurs,

I just want to tell you something you don't know.
When I come to the forum and I see a post from you, I feel excited and say to myself - "Oh look! Dinosaurs is here!"

I post here but don't share a lot about me. It is something I struggle with, putting things to words and feeling like I fit in or am accepted.

I think the more you just come on over and say whatever is on your mind, the more good experiences you have, the easier it will become. This is an amazingly kind place to be.

thanks so much. that means a lot to me. gives me some stuff to talk about. and your kind words too cats. except i didn't know how to put two quotes here. i really appreciate what everyone has said. i just get real freaked out being left alone with myself sometimes. and get panicked needing to have other people talk to me.

[PTSDlovemycats]

One thing that I have noticed Dinos, is that whenever I have seen you reply in a thread about someone else you tend to exhibit some true wisdom and genuine care in your replies.

[SpiritRunner]

Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats

One thing that I have noticed Dinos, is that whenever I have seen you reply in a thread about someone else you tend to exhibit some true wisdom and genuine care in your replies.

I agree with this!

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats

One thing that I have noticed Dinos, is that whenever I have seen you reply in a thread about someone else you tend to exhibit some true wisdom and genuine care in your replies.

I agree!

[rainbow8]

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