[buttrfli42481]

My daughter's T called and told me he is leaving. He is moving out of the area. Caterpillar doesn't know yet that next Monday will be her last session. She was really starting to open up with him, really trust him. He is a huge positive male role-model in her life. I don't know how I feel about this. I'm bits of anger, happy, sad, hurt, greatful... almost feel abandoned. Part of me doesn't want to go to the last session for fear of breaking down and crying like a baby, another part wants to go and wish him well in his new job. It just really sucks. Why do all the good therapists have to leave?

[granite1]

wow thats not a lot of time.has he made arangements for your doughter to see another T

[ECHOES]

Moving takes planning and time.
The notice he is giving is awfully sudden. I so understand the feelings you're having. (I had a T 'disappear' once due to being arrested for having a relationship with his client. No notice at all, just was gone.)

I hope little Cateripillar will be okay while she makes the transistion to a new T, but I'm sorry she has to do this.

[WePow]

Sending tons of hugs! Can you set up phone calls for her until she is able to find another T? This will be a loss for her and you both. It is ok to grieve.

[buttrfli42481]

To make a long story short, he aquired his grandparents property and is moving in there. He gave his 2 week notice last week. We missed that session due to caterpillar having some dental work done. So unfortunately we got a short notice.

Caterpillar is on the list of clients who still want to be seen. The organization has not filled his position yet, so we have to wait which will hopefully be a short time.

[WikidPissah]

ouch. my heart goes out to you both. I hate the transition into a new T, especially after you settle in with old T a bit.
Best wishes for you both...I hope a really good T is able to kick right in.

[SpiritRunner]

Oh, I am sorry! That seems so sudden and would be hard to adjust to. It's ok to feel a mix of emotions about it. I hope too he has something set up for your daughter.

[with or without you]

That is really sudden on T's part and quite frankly he sucks for doing this. I would be upset with him (not just because he's leaving).

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by buttrfli42481

My daughter's T called and told me he is leaving. He is moving out of the area. Caterpillar doesn't know yet that next Monday will be her last session. She was really starting to open up with him, really trust him. He is a huge positive male role-model in her life. I don't know how I feel about this. I'm bits of anger, happy, sad, hurt, greatful... almost feel abandoned. Part of me doesn't want to go to the last session for fear of breaking down and crying like a baby, another part wants to go and wish him well in his new job. It just really sucks. Why do all the good therapists have to leave?

How old is daughter? Do you usually go with her to the sessions? Since her T is leaving, it might be good to let your daughter have that whole session for just him and her, to say good-bye, grieve, etc. Maybe you could say a quick good-bye and thanks in the waiting room. I'm sorry he has to leave your daughter. I hope he can provide some good referrals. Ts often know of other Ts kind of like themselves, who might be a good fit if they were.

[buttrfli42481]

She is 10 and I go to some of her sessions. I have already been told that we can extend her session a half hour if needed. I haven't made up my mind if we are going to do a joint session, half and half, or just her. We aren't being referred out because where she gets therapy is through a women's DV shelter. They are expected to have a new T hired by the end of the month, if not sooner. She is on the list to continue therapy with the shelter, so we will be waiting for a phone call.