[peridot28]

I am at a Relay for Life event on the side of town where my T's office is. I shop in thie section of town a lot and never feel the need to drive by her office. But, for some reason tonight, on my way home, I feel like I want to drive past my T's office just to feel close to her. It would be like a little drive-by therapy. I'm never this needy for her, because I see her twice a week, so I get my T fix often. But, right now I totally miss her. I saw her yesterday and will see her on Monday, so only a couple of days to see her again.

We have been talking more deeply about my abuse and she shows me so much love and compassion. So, I'm just really longing for that at the moment. Also, it's Mother's Day weekend and I'm thinking about her in that regard, as well.

Do any of you ever secretly drive by your T's office for a bit of connection and a little bit of drive-by therapy?

i understand that need. i feel it right now as i desperately miss my T and haven't seen her in a long while because of her family emergency. I WISH i could drive by her house but its an hour away!
i'm so glad your T is so loving and compassionate. that's wonderful. my therapist is too...which is why i miss her so much. i see my T twice a week also. i dont' think it'd hurt to drive by her office if it would make you feel better!

[peridot28]

Originally Posted by SarahMichelle

i understand that need. i feel it right now as i desperately miss my T and haven't seen her in a long while because of her family emergency. I WISH i could drive by her house but its an hour away!
i'm so glad your T is so loving and compassionate. that's wonderful. my therapist is too...which is why i miss her so much. i see my T twice a week also. i dont' think it'd hurt to drive by her office if it would make you feel better!

Awww, Sarah, I hope you get to see your T soon. I understand how hard that must be for you. We can be buds and send each other hugs: (((((Sara)))))

How are you feeling? Do you have any idea when you'll get to see your T again? I'll take you along with me to my session on Monday so you can get a little love while you're waiting to see your T again. :-)

[Can't Stop Crying]

If it helps you feel connected...I don't see any harm in the drive-by

[PTSDlovemycats]

Originally Posted by peridot28

Do any of you ever secretly drive by your T's office for a bit of connection and a little bit of drive-by therapy?

Yes, occasionally I do that as well.

[wheeler]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. I even 'threaten' my T that I'm going to come by and just sit in her parking lot

[Elli-Beth]

My T is two hours away. I have a pic of his hideous couch cover as my wallpaper on my phone, so that's my drive-by.

[WikidPissah]

I have never done the drive by...T's office is only about 10 min from me, but it isn't a road I frequent.

Originally Posted by Elli-Beth

My T is two hours away. I have a pic of his hideous couch cover as my wallpaper on my phone, so that's my drive-by.

this made me lol....

[dizgirl2011]

Hey,
I think many people do this at times to feel close to their therapist so you're not alone. I can't really do it because I see my T at her office at home and it may look like I was stalking her at her home if she seen me lol.

However, a few years ago I had to end with a T and as I had no other support, I went to the place I used to see her and sat outside crying. There was no one in the building as the service had moved to a new venue but just been there made me feel close to something.

[granite1]

i have to admit i did once when i quit and was so convinced she would never take me back.i had called her asking if i could come back(IT WAS HORRABLE FOR ME TO DO THAT)i was waiting for her to call back and she wasnt.i was in panic mode and drove bye her office to see if it was closed..turned out to be the total wrong thing to do .it was open and i was more convinced she hated me.she did end up calling.

[SpiritRunner]

I did once but don't usually drive that way. I drove past her house once too but don't usually drive that way either! I just look at the 'trust' rock she gave me sometimes when I need a sense of the connection......

[WePow]

When I first saw my T, he was in my hood. So I drove by TONS of times. Now that he is on the other side of town, I never drive by. But I do think of him and I do sometimes drive by his old office.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by peridot28

Do any of you ever secretly drive by your T's office for a bit of connection and a little bit of drive-by therapy?

I don't drive by "secretly", but I do understand the desire to be close to one's T between sessions, to remember the connection. Sometimes I do have to drive by T's office for reasons other than having a session there (it is on the route between my PNP and my school), and I do feel a little twang of "good" and "connection" when I go by. It's nice. Also, when I drive the freeway to school, if it is a sunny and clear day, I can look across the lake and spot T's office building on the other side, and that makes me feel good too.

I think if you're in the part of town where his office is for your relay, it is fine to do a driveby. Feel the connection. Go for it.

How did the Relay for Life go? Hope you got a lot of donations for the cause.

[Perna]

Oh, I use to look her (and myself :-) up in the phone book (make sure we both still exist :-) as well as drive by and look for her car but I hated that sometimes because I wouldn't see it so that made me lonelier.

[Sweetlove]

My T's office is close to where I work...so sometimes if I'm having a bad day or need to take a drive, I'll go by the office and see if he is still there. Most of the time just driving by makes me feel calmer.

[Suratji]

Oh yes, I've done it a few times. But it's very easy to do since her office is on my way home from town. I only need to go 1/2 block off main road to see her. Even when I'm on main road, I can see her car parked out front. I guess it feels good to have this little sliver of connection on occasion. We all have places that bring back fond memories and for me T's office is a place of powerful positive memories (the memory of being with her)

[quote=Perna;1838392]Oh, I use to look her (and myself :-) up in the phone book (make sure we both still exist :-) [quote]

I *love* this- thank you!

I sometimes go to places where I feel closer to T. She has two offices with a starbucks by each where she gets her coffees. I tend to go to one or the other (the one where I know she isn't working that day) to feel closer to her. It's not a secret- I tell her- and it almost always helps.

Hopefully in about a week and a half I will see my T again. She is very busy next week with something & then will be out of town for 2 days as well.
Did you do the drive by? If you did, did it help?

Oh that reminds me...you know something I have that helps? My therapist is also a pianist, and I have a music CD that she made and gave to me.. I put it on my iPod and can listen to her playing the piano. Sometimes it helps when I miss her. Also... you know those recordable story books that are out now? At Christmastime, (I have DID by the way) my younger alters made 1 of those with our T-- so we have her voice in the book reading the story with them. Maybe you could get your T's voice on tape, or make a recording of something, or a picture of your T's office... something like that?

t's office is on a major street, (never even noticed his office until i started going there) used to have to travel it daily for work.

i didn't always like it when things were not going well, thinking he was in there helping someone else when i wasn't good enough

sending safe hugs

[ECHOES]

I thnk it's an object-relations kind of thing.
When I happen to need to be in the area where my T's office is located, which is rarely, I may go out of my way a few blocks just to drive by. I do get a nice feeling and a smile on my face when I do, thinking about how fortunate I am to have her in my life.

[lastyearisblank]

My t's street is a very pompous one. I will sometimes be around there and be like ah, t . But most of the time I find myself connecting in other ways than going to the building. Like I will be reading a book and it will remind me of therapy or something we talked about.

[Omers]

I pass by the back of Ts office on my way to massage T and look for her car even though I know she doesn't work that day. My fix is voice mail. I always leave at least a little message so I don't feel like a stalker. I would love a recording of her voice, her singing or her playing an instrument... don't see it happening though.

I am going to start following Omers around and steal Omers massage T.

[Mike_J]

I don't ever drive by my therapit's office just to feel a bit of connection to her. It seems way more effective to just visulize her in my head, in fact I often have rather lenghtly conversations with her all safely within the confines of my head.

Originally Posted by SarahMichelle

I am going to start following Omers around and steal Omers massage T.

I have this thought sometimes too! Fight you for her?