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May 19, 2011, 10:13 AM
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I usually have a list of things to work on with T, things I want to remember to bring up in the session. But the last few sessions I have felt a disconnect with her.
  Last time, after sitting in total silence for quite a while, I finally brought up why I *thought* I may be mad. Even now I feel "wrong" for doing this. I'm just never really entitled to my feelings, beliefs, opinions. Today I am feeling vulnerable and not sure if I trust her. I'm also a little disappointed because there are a few things I'm stressed out over (dealing with my insurance company, checking my bank balance etc) and I have no one else to go to with these things. This all comes together to leave me feeling like my mind is blank. All I can think of today is walking into T and saying "I don't know what I am feeling."
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May 19, 2011, 10:19 AM
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Maybe you could talk about 'I'm just never really entitled to my feelings, beliefs, opinions.'? That sounds to me like a pretty important thing to discuss. And it's okay to go in and say that you don't know what you're feeling. I said that to my t at least 5 times today!
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May 19, 2011, 10:23 AM
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i think splintered is right.
also, sometimes when a person isnt allowed to have feelings, they do the logical thing and disconnect from them almost completely. so, at those times, their emotions may manifest as physical feelings (tightness in the chest, headaches, pains, nausea, etc.) it might be a good start to let your therapist know that you arent sure about your emotions at the moment, but ________ is how you feel in your body. |
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May 19, 2011, 10:27 AM
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May 19, 2011, 11:15 AM
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Elana, you are always entitled to your feelings. And that's exactly what they are: feelings. Sometimes we may take things the wrong way or have a difference of opinion on something or inner conflict. But the actual "feelings" that we have in any given moment under any given circumstance are never wrong even when we have all kinds of mixed feelings. Sending hugs you're way
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May 19, 2011, 02:19 PM
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May 19, 2011, 03:19 PM
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I almost had a panic attack while driving there and thought I was going to have to pull over. But I kept breathing and trying to think other thoughts.
Then the session went better than I expected. I started by talking about other stuff completely (just seeing where my thoughts went). When I got around to talking about the last session and the issues (the fissure) we had, I couldn't believe I brought it up that easily. T said, "We all make mistakes." I wanted her to clarify! So I asked, "Did I make a mistake?" She said, "No, actually I think I made a few mistakes recently." However, she did not apologize... and... I thought I would feel hurt if she didn't apologize. Instead I needed more clarification. So I asked, "Even if you felt right about what you had said, and felt like you hadn't made a mistake, I would still be entitled to my opinions and feelings, right? She said, "Correct." This was a big question for me.
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May 20, 2011, 01:14 PM
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Very good work!
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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May 20, 2011, 01:57 PM
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