going to hospital

TayQuincy · Jul 07, 2011, 06:20 PM

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Originally Posted by poetgirl76

T told me today that I am not what I feel too....(like tree's T said)......and that what I am doing is catastrophizing the future and then using emotional reasoning to tell myself I couldn't handle it, because I FEEL right now like I couldn't (and maybe right now I couldn't, but right now the only bad thing that is really happening is happening solely in my imagination......) when she says the truth is there will be a way if/when something bad does happen, there will be those who can and will help me......so I am trying to push away the damaging anxiety-producing thoughts by trying to believe those things.....

I can relate to this..I do the same thing. It's so hard to live with the uncertainty of the future. It's so hard not to worry that life will become more than I can handle. The thing is, all it does is create more suffering now when the future isn't even here yet.

SillySelf · Jul 07, 2011, 11:48 PM

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I keep resurrecting my old thread, because the related issue is ongoing and I don't feel like starting a new thread........still having trouble with sui thoughts and fears about the future if I keep living, but anyway, T said today she sees reason to be encouraged, little bits of progress, some baby steps that encourage her.......like I am trying to get up earlier to have quiet time, I am trying to do what I need to do with the kids, I think I can make myself do what needs to be done instead of just saying how unable I am....
T told me today that I am not what I feel too....(like tree's T said)......and that what I am doing is catastrophizing the future and then using emotional reasoning to tell myself I couldn't handle it, because I FEEL right now like I couldn't (and maybe right now I couldn't, but right now the only bad thing that is really happening is happening solely in my imagination......) when she says the truth is there will be a way if/when something bad does happen, there will be those who can and will help me......so I am trying to push away the damaging anxiety-producing thoughts by trying to believe those things.....

I can understand and relate on how you are worried about what the future may bring. I do that a lot myself sometimes. Sometimes I just have to remind myself that TODAY I have everything I need to survive. TOMORROW is never a guarantee, only a gift. I have to make the best use of what I have today- in the present. Many times I catastrophize about the future, or even the next day and then when that times comes, 99.9 % of the time my worries were unfounded and then I used all my precious energy from days before worrying about it when I could have used those days to do good things like form bonds with people, love on my children more, touch someones life in some small way. Hang in there :O)

SpiritRunner · Jul 08, 2011, 08:31 AM

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Originally Posted by TayQuincy

I can relate to this..I do the same thing. It's so hard to live with the uncertainty of the future. It's so hard not to worry that life will become more than I can handle. The thing is, all it does is create more suffering now when the future isn't even here yet.

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Originally Posted by SillySelf

I can understand and relate on how you are worried about what the future may bring. I do that a lot myself sometimes. Sometimes I just have to remind myself that TODAY I have everything I need to survive. TOMORROW is never a guarantee, only a gift. I have to make the best use of what I have today- in the present. Many times I catastrophize about the future, or even the next day and then when that times comes, 99.9 % of the time my worries were unfounded and then I used all my precious energy from days before worrying about it when I could have used those days to do good things like form bonds with people, love on my children more, touch someones life in some small way. Hang in there :O)

thank you both for your answers......it's good to know others relate.
I wonder if most people have a fear of the uncertainty of the future......or if this is something that is intensified if you have BPD.

Sannah · Jul 18, 2011, 02:15 PM

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I wonder if most people have a fear of the uncertainty of the future......or if this is something that is intensified if you have BPD.

I think that it is very common for anyone with anxiety. Those of us who are anxious never got to experience feeling secure so we try to find security in our environment, our routine, anything that we can grab onto. Security doesn't exist within us. So when looking to the future it scares us because where will we find our security in that unknown? I worked through this by building security within myself. I worked through my insecurities and built security within.

I think that it is good that you are making yourself do things. Accomplishing things will help you to see that you can accomplish things. Maybe it would help you to review Erickson's stages of development Industry vs. Inferiority.

rainbow8 · Jul 18, 2011, 03:21 PM

Does anyone know how poetgirl is? I hope you're feeling a little bit better, pg. I'm thinking of you!!!

WePow · Jul 18, 2011, 05:35 PM

((((((((((PG))))))))))) We are missing you too.

karebear1 · Jul 18, 2011, 06:30 PM

Me too poetgirl. Hope you're ok.

peaches100 · Jul 19, 2011, 10:58 AM

Has anyone heard from Poetgirl since July 8?

PreacherHeckler · Jul 19, 2011, 11:05 AM

Peaches, she posted something on her other thread -- "An end to the pain" -- on July 14th. Haven't seen her here since then but I haven't been here much either, so I don't really know.

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