[Protoform]

I know that therapists help people but my experience with them has been so negative I can't say that I like them. Chances are that if I were to meet 100 more therapists, I still wouldn't like them.

[Xeneon]

I'm sorry you have such hard time with the ones you have delt with. Therapist are like pair of shoes. There so many out there but they don't all fit you.

[skysblue]

I'd say that with such an attitude, you may as well stay far away from therapists.

There's a real danger in painting everyone with the same brush.

at the risk of being sarcastic...why am i not surprised...& i guess this means that the post from a few days ago stating that you were contemplating therapy if you could a therapist you could tolerate just ain't going to happen?

i guess if you have serious concerns about wanting to work on some issues then you have to find ways around the stumbling blocks. if you can't fix what ails you yourself & need to have a coach, mentor, therapist, pastor, what ever you want, need to name it to assist you the you have to help then sometimes you have to suck it up & find that person. if a woman can't do it, then find a male. maybe a group setting is for you. whatever.

life is too short to be miserable & complain about it. seems to me (& this is just my humble opinion..)that complaining about how crappy 1 therapist treated you isn't making going to make anything better.

look...i don't like ketchup on hot dogs...i like mustard. some serves me one with the dreaded red stuff i8 can piss & moan until i turn 90 & be miserable & not enjoy my life or i can remedy the situation by figuring out that i don't like ketchup & only mustard & then only go to places that serve the good brown stuff. then life is good & i can go on with things & be happy. problem solved. simplistic yes...but you get the idea.

i guess my question is: at what point will you decide what to do about the situation...deal with it by addressing it...or just continue to complain...(& yes i realize this is a board where people are free to vent about issues so you are free to just continue to do so)......but to me anyway.

anyway...i guess you could screw up my whole arguement & go with the whole relish thing & totally avoid ketchup/mustard or even be a vegetarian...but i was making a point.

stumpy

[ECHOES]

Originally Posted by Protoform

I know that therapists help people but my experience with them has been so negative I can't say that I like them. Chances are that if I were to meet 100 more therapists, I still wouldn't like them.

Could be. We find what we are 'looking for', what we expect to find.

I hope you will read SillySelf's posts "Starting Therapy Tuesday" about previous experience with therapy, and now a new therapy beginning and how SillySelf laid right out in the first session that previous therapy experiences were not good and those memories were creating a lot of nervousness for SillySelf.
The new therapist listened, heard, understood, and reassured SillySelf and they are off to a great start.

I believe something similar is every bit as possible for you.

[cmac13]

Originally Posted by Protoform

I know that therapists help people but my experience with them has been so negative I can't say that I like them. Chances are that if I were to meet 100 more therapists, I still wouldn't like them.

So then find other ways to work on your issues...no one says you have to see a therapist to get the help you need. That is just one avenue...

[SillySelf]

Originally Posted by Protoform

I know that therapists help people but my experience with them has been so negative I can't say that I like them. Chances are that if I were to meet 100 more therapists, I still wouldn't like them.

It is true what ECHOES said, read my post. I was VERY hesitant and TERRIFIED, but once I laid it all out for the new therapist on how I had a bad experience with a different therapist and now had trouble trusting other therapists, she calmly talked to me and calmed all my fears. I started out in session TERRIFIED of her, but then left very much at ease and so proud of myself for having the courage to go and try out another therapist.

If you ever go to another therapist, it is important, preferable in the first session if you can, to tell them of all your other bad experiences. This can help the therapist to understand your hesitation and work through your bad experiences with you and help you gain your trust in them. Read my thread. I think you will be inspired. I use to feel much the same way. I think the world of my new therapist now, where I used to despise all therapists.

[STARLITE*1111]

Originally Posted by Protoform

I know that therapists help people but my experience with them has been so negative I can't say that I like them. Chances are that if I were to meet 100 more therapists, I still wouldn't like them.

I've been through so many. Many reasons didn't work. It sure wasn't cuz I didn't want it to!

Some should be OUT of the BUSINESS A>S>A>P>

[Brightheart]

Originally Posted by Protoform

I know that therapists help people but my experience with them has been so negative I can't say that I like them. Chances are that if I were to meet 100 more therapists, I still wouldn't like them.

There can be a lot to explore about yourself in this statement. These feelings could represent resistance. The feelings could represent a disdain for those you feel vulnerable with. They could represent a pattern of generalizing. I sense that you are still angry about what happened with your previous therapist, but what took place in that relationship doesn't reflect on any other therapists. What might cause you to make that connection?