[skysblue]

It's been so interesting seeing everyone's responses on sharing their therapy with their significant others? I thought it would be cool to break it down a bit more and get some 'statistics'. Then, maybe I can refer back to it when I'm doubtful about my decision and say, "See _% do the same thing as I do."

[mark366160]

When I did share it with my wife, she got upset and said I was trying to have an affair with her (the therapist)... she started talking about calling the place up and complaining, so I quit. When I later called and told my therapist about this, she said if I thought I was still in need of therapy, I needed to find another therapist.

[skysblue]

Originally Posted by mark366160

When I did share it with my wife, she got upset and said I was trying to have an affair with her (the therapist)... she started talking about calling the place up and complaining, so I quit. When I later called and told my therapist about this, she said if I thought I was still in need of therapy, I needed to find another therapist.

Yike!! that is terrible. Did you find another T?

[mark366160]

I started to. Originally, the therapist said she would give me a referral, but she never did. I contacted someone through the employee assistance program where I work, and they recommended a specific person, and gave me their name and number, sent the place my EAP info, and said I needed to call and setup the appointment. When I called them up, the receptionist said the person recommended was on vacation, and that they had other people working for them that could take me sooner. I said no, and never called them back. I called the EAP people back and told them to cancel this whole referral thing. It's all sort of twisted. Given what had happened with the wife, the feelings I was having for the original therapist, and a whole lot of other things I was having to deal with at work, I could have used someone to talk to... but it just wasn't worth the trouble. I really got tired of hearing the EAP person say "all our conversations are confidential"... and "are you safe"... standard ******** questions I suppose.

All of this as a result of telling my wife... therefore, my opinion on this subject is keep everything to yourself. As soon as you get other family members involved in what you believe to be your personal therapy, the whole thing starts spinning out of control.

I voted 'a lot, but not the most sensitive'. But, I do share with him sensitive things as long as they are not pertaining to him. That would hurt him too bad.

i don't have an s.o. but when i was married i wouldn't tell him anything. i always got one of two responses from him everytime.
"How was therapy?"
me: great, him: then why do you need to go back?
me: lousy, him: then why are you going back?

just was easier not saying anything. now we are divorced, I win!!!!

[Wren_]

i don't have a s.o. at all .... but i've told a bit about therapy to a friend online and their response is often being jealous and negative about it because i'm talking to a therapist; or about a therapist instead of to them

[Butterflies Are Free]

Well, I don't have a S.O., but I do share quite a bit with one of my friends and I have even shared with my mother. I don't share with my sister anymore because she thinks I see my T too often.

I dont really tell my husband much. Little bits, like "T and I went for ice cream today" or "We're working on something really hard." But, not any real details (its so personal anyway, too personal even for my husband to know)... and its just hard to talk about outside of my T's safe space, and my husband probably wouldn't "get it." He has never been in trauma therapy, never had DID, never even had a T even though he IS a T...so I don't expect him to get much.