[cmac13]

I grew up in a family that looked good on the outside to everyone, but all was not Ok inside of our home. I spent a great deal of time alone. I don't remember one time my mother did anything alone with me where we had fun together. There was a lot of physical and emotional abuse and I left home @20 to try to escape it all. I have a therapist I began to see 20 years ago to deal with a lot of these family issues. Somewhere along the way I began to give her tickets to attend an event with me and either my son or husband once a year. I always gave her two tickets so her husband could also come The event is something we both absolutely love and she has come to this event for the past 12 years. I asked why she has accepted my gift of tickets and why she bothers to show up? Because often it's after she has worked all day...and she answers me with "I know how much it means to you." Tonight she attended the event with me...we talked and laughed so much...I know she is not my Mom but her maternal side is always there to guide me and gives me courage to to face the day even when things are not going well. I know my next
session on Saturday we will go back to dealing with my life struggles...but tonight as always was grand. She is the best! Do you think this is a boundary violation? I don't feel violated in any way. I feel very much cared for.

[vaffla]

That is so awesome! I am happy for you that you have her in your life. That is such a blessing .

[Wren_]

To me it sounds like a great time out for you and your T; one that you have enjoyed for many years and it's wonderful you've been able to spend that time together outside of therapy. If it's something you've done for a long time; and that she is willing to do and you've invited her to do .... where would a boundary violation come in and do you mean your boundaries or hers?

[cmac13]

I know she does not do this with many clients if any. She has been in the field for 40 years. She is one of those therapists who just "goes the extra mile" no matter what. She has done a lot of things for me that I never dreamed she would do like writing letters of support for me to have during the week if i am troubled about something, leaving a voice mail to listen to if I feel I need some support, or taping children's books for me to listen to if I can't sleep. She just does extra stuff and never thinks twice about it. I think because she is in private practice she is able to do things the way she chooses to and because that is just how she is. I just wonder if anyone out there has a therapist who would do something outside of therapy with them in a very public setting. I woke up this morning smiling thinking about how great last night was and how she took the time to join me...off to work I go!

[wheeler]

That is very cool! What a great relationship you must have.

[granite1]

nice to hear from you againno it doesnt sound like a boundary problem at all to me it seem both of you are ok with it so i hope you can just keep enjoying you time together

[Butterflies Are Free]

I am so happy for you!