Tomorrow is first of last two appointments

My T has a client he saw for years who moved for a job. He now sees her once a week on SKYPE. He said it was a little strange at first doing therapy over video, but that they were able to get into the flow and it works great. :-) I always know when she is talking to him if she is before me because he will be in his office with his door closed and I hear his voice periodically... but then when he opens the door, there is no one else there. hee hee. Maybe you can ask about that?

Crazy - I'm sorry you are going thru this rough time. I can't imaginethe difficulty of leaving my t. I'm glad you're on PC. I missed PC yesterday when we had no power. Write me anytime.

I don't know, skysblue! I am strong-willed if nothing else. We're going to stay in contact and try to be friends. I know that'll be very limited though. I want to see or talk to her everyday! We have plans for me to come back to visit her soon and go to the park together.

My T wants to skype. I hate skype and similar mediums. I associate them with bad things. She doesn't know that. So it'd be phone calls if we continued.

By the way, I am not a normal person. This works for normal people. I cope better with complete loss. I don't know how to take the middle ground. I know normal people would be fortunate for continued contact through any means. I just focus on the complete loss of T.

so sorry

getting ready now for my appointment. sigh

Have been reading but haven't responded til now.
Just want to send some hugs to you.

How'd it go?

crazy ... maybe finding a way to continue (phonecalls, emails, and not things that have additional triggers like skype) after you move is an important therapeutic tool in and of itself given the things you've been sharing? to learn how to overcome the all or nothing and work on allowing yourself some of that middleground? could be very difficult .... but might be healing? hope it went well today

You make a good point, tigergirl, and I have wondered the same. Should I force myself to be normal? I just think the sessions will be so unproductive with me constantly telling her how much I miss her and love her.

The sessions went okay. I held her and had my head on her the entire time and whined like a baby. I know she will miss me a lot too. She cried last week after I told her I didn't want to continue with phone sessions. She says I can contact her at any time if I need to talk. We are also going to navigate how to be friends, which I know will be really awkward.

((((((((crazy)))))))))

I'm glad you had that closeness with T today.

Thank you, Tree. She has been the most important person in my life and wil always be one of the most important.

((((Crazy)))) I don't know about "forcing yourself to be normal" ... what is normal anyway? but, maybe giving it a try and seeing what happens might help in lots of ways. Could you - this is just pondering here - do something like, put a limit on how much of a session you talked about the missing her before you moved on and discussed other things? That way you can get in the missing part (which I think is still productive) and address other things as well Just things to think about

I get anxious just reading the titles of these threads, this is the first time I'm reading one, I couldn't stand to before.

Who are you, OJ, phoning in your therapy? Doubtful! And it's not just about the touching. It diminishes what a T does to think it can be done long-distance, IMO. Been there, didn't do it! Breaks from therapy are good.

Not to mention the insurance issues - you can't even get a prescription filled in another state.

I'm glad you'll still be HERE, and wish you best of luck in your new venture.

You make another excellent point. T offered to steer to the conversation to other topics, but I told her I'd ignore her and we'd end up having a sparring contest! I am number one on the list of difficult patients to work with. Sigh. I don't know. I felt better when I decided not to go phone sessions and now I feel the impending loss. I don't know if I'd feel better knowing we'd still have a couple sessions a week.

Thanks, Hanky. No, I am not OJ...? I agree long-distance does diminish therapy hence why my T wants to do face-to-face through skype with monthly visits or two.

I'd LOVE LOVE LOVE a break from therapy, or maybe it's a break from my misery. My T doesn't prescribe me meds, and I am weening off the one I am on. I said goodbye to my pdoc a month ago or so.

Are you wondering about the OJ reference? Those of us who are middle-age-ish remember the OJ Simpson trial, where he was acquitted of murder. Maybe in the late 1990's. He'd beaten his wife previously and as part of his sentence for that crime, did therapy by phone. In LA. Where you can't shake a stick without hitting a T.

Anne

crazy: First, many hugs to you. plus more. I am sorry I didn't read your thread until now! I am so sorry you have to leave your T in this way, but you seem to feel some relief in doing so. Or am I wrong? Maybe the relationship was TOO close?

But, I understand the all or nothing feeling. I'm that way, especially with Ts, and I feel that way about my T too. It's very frustrating! When I quit my former T, I tried seeing her every few months, but the time in between was terrible for me. I was always waiting for the next session, not a good way to live!

But, now with my current T, I would choose phone sessions over nothing at all, at least temporarily while I got settled in my new location. Do you know people where you are moving to? Is it your "dream job" so you'll be preoccupied with it? I hope you will have support in your new location!! Of course you have us!!!!!

Please be careful about becoming friends with your T. I thought there were rules about doing that after therapy.

I hope I'm not coming off as pessimistic, which is my mode of operation. I wish you well and I admire you for being willing to move so far away and start a new job! Good luck!!!!

I appreciate your questions and your support, rainbow as I appreciate everyone else!

Today was the last day to see my T! I soaked her clothes with my tears! I have been distracted by last minute moving. Tomorrow, I uhaul it out of here, spend the night halfway to my new destination, and then boom I am all alone in a new world.

no no .. you have us, you aren't alone i know it isn't the same as having someone there in person but you can still take us with us wherever you go in the world so it can still work awww crazy i'm sorry, that has to be so rough having said goodbye to her

will you be able to get online tomorrow night to let us know how you are?

CCBG- adventure can be so fulfilling. I'm happy that you're going to your dream job. I have travelled to other countries also not knowing anyone and also clear to opposite coast to begin anew. It's scary but also exciting. I would initially have a love/hate relationship with new place. They wouldn't have what I was used to but then again, new location would have tons of different stuff. The key is to be open and to be flexible and give it enough time to get used to. We begin to feel at home in a new place only when we begin to build memories there. It takes time so be patient.