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Oct 31, 2011, 10:12 AM
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Okay...so my T told me last week that since we can't meet this evening (stupid Halloween) we could meet another night-probably Thursday-so I was so happy that I would still be able to see him! I wrote him last Wednesday to see if we could set it up...I never heard anything back...then I get an email this morn answering another of my ?'s and says "btw-I don't have any times to meet this week", I wrote back "oh okay : (. That kinda sucks because I can't meet next week either, oh well...have a good few weeks and I guess I'll email you later to see about the following week" I'm just sook dissapppointed....I feel like I'm going to breakdown...I feel full of rage!! I want to cry hysterically (I have to hold it together at work)...I just don't know if I cam keep doing this to myself : (
I emailed a counselor on my campus to see if I could do a few free sessions there...I just need someone to talk to about this...
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#2
Oct 31, 2011, 10:15 AM
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I'm sorry! Want to keep talking here?
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Oct 31, 2011, 10:27 AM
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I'm trying to figure out why I'm so upset...why can't I just be okay with the fact that it will be awhile before I see him...and I think I feel like I'm always getting put in the back of the line for priorities...I want him to say...I'm going to choose you..because I'm pretty sure his Thursday clients don't get shafted so often...tell them u can't meet...it's not fair! He must not care enough...or maybe even at all...I'm so mad at him...he should have never said we could do this week-my life is full of broken promises from men already...I don't need it from him..it hurts...I will never be chosen first by him...it won't ever be me...and I know that's reality but I hate it...i want him to say you are hurting so much right now..we need to see each other...and you are working so hard...I want to see you...but nope...okay I'm just rambling now....
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Oct 31, 2011, 10:27 AM
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Oh, that's hard and kind of irresponsible of your T to throw that out there and not follow it up. Next time, jump on making the appointment you want right then, when he offers it!
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Oct 31, 2011, 10:47 AM
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I hate the way he does schedulin...he "can't" schedule me for a set time each week (this is his extra job) so I have to email him each week to see if we can have a session...my nerves and emotions cant handle this...if he were not such an amazing T besides that I would have quit a long time ago...to be fair he didn't promise a session on thur (he doesn't schedule anything at the end of sessions) but I for my hopes up because he said we could see each other even though we can't tonight...and I just feel crushed...I hate this...I just don't know if it's big enough of an issue to quit over...I just don't know how many more times I can do this to myself...
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Oct 31, 2011, 10:54 AM
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How long before you'll hear from your campus counselor?
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Oct 31, 2011, 11:03 AM
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Campus counselor said she has 2 times open...I can do one of them...maybe next Monday start...I feel weird going to someone else...i don't want to have to quit T...I love him : (
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Oct 31, 2011, 11:21 AM
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This sounds like such a difficult situation - I couldn't stand all the uncertainty over when my next appt would be. With my current T my appt changes from week to week because he teaches& does other stuff in addition to his private practice. At the end of each session he schedules my next appt. Do you think your T might be able to do that? Hopefully he would know what his schedule was for the following week, so you wouldn't have to go through the uncertainty of waiting for email responses. That would drive me crazy!!!
 Maybe you could suggest this? He can only say no if it doesn't work for him, but at least you tried.
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Oct 31, 2011, 11:29 AM
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Thanks Bunny! I know it has stresses me out beyond what should be...I'm going to have to talk about it with him
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Oct 31, 2011, 11:48 AM
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Please talk to your T how unsettling it is not to know. You're being tortured. |
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Oct 31, 2011, 03:42 PM
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Where I do differ, however, is in some of our (I'm making a collective judgement here, maybe unfair) overheated rhetoric. I do this alot...talking myself into a purple foaming fit because of a T meltdown. For example, I honestly don't think anyone is being tortured here. Unsettled, yes but tortured? Hang in there......I feel that you have the resources and wisdom to deal with this! I would also be upset if I were in your shoes. A regular appointment does wonders to keep the freak level in check.... 
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Oct 31, 2011, 03:53 PM
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There is no way possible for me to have a standing appointment...it's just not going to happen...we have already discussed it some...whatever I'm so over this...I'm soo happy for all of you who are lucky to have that-and couldn't imagine not having it *eye roll* well I can tell him all I want how bad this hurts-it won't change it...so I either quit or just shut up and go with the flow...
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Oct 31, 2011, 04:01 PM
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Oct 31, 2011, 04:20 PM
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I feel bad for what your going thru ...
I guess i am very lucky my T usally has weeks worth of appts for me .. he feels having a set schedule helps me stay more stable ... I hope your able to figure out a way to find a way to get a more regular appt . Wishing you Love and Peace ~ |
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Nov 01, 2011, 10:31 AM
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It is very important to tell him how you are feeling about all of this. Expressing our feelings even if the situation can't be changed is very therapeutic. I really hope that you will tell him everything that you have written here. Please keep us posted on this?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Nov 01, 2011, 06:03 PM
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(((sannah))) thank you!! Im going to be seeing him on Thursday, I plan on telling him how much this is bothering me...I'll let y'all know how it goes!!
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Nov 02, 2011, 09:07 AM
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Excellent!!!!!! And you are welcome.
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