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Yep, it's day 6 of her 28 day absence and I barely remember she exists. Isn't that fantastic? In fact, I see no reason to continue seeing her when she returns. I can't even remember why I'm in therapy.

Wow, I hope this keeps up for the next 22 days. Could I actually be one of those who escapes the torture of terrible separation anxiety? Or am I just burying very deeply any feelings about it?

Well, stay tuned...

Yeah! T who?!

Originally Posted by skysblue

Could I actually be one of those who escapes the torture of terrible separation anxiety? Or am I just burying very deeply any feelings about it?

Well, stay tuned...

There is nothing that says you have to go through separation anxiety when your T's not around. I never do. It must be a very individual thing. Try not to overthink it, and enjoy this break from therapy if that's what it turns out to be for you.

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Originally Posted by farmergirl

There is nothing that says you have to go through separation anxiety when your T's not around. I never do. It must be a very individual thing. Try not to overthink it, and enjoy this break from therapy if that's what it turns out to be for you.

Well, I had that anxiety in the past but hoping it won't happen this time or at least not too badly...

So far, so good

Personally, I'm inclined to go to the old addage, "I think you protest too much."
The fact that you posted here says to me that you're probably thinking about her more than you think or want to admit. .. Or perhaps you're thinking about how much you're NOT thinking about her.. . sorry but that still counts as thinking about or remembering the person.
If a person truly and totally forgets or lets go of an important relationship, they don't think, remember, dream or talk about the person that they have forgotten. The person ceases to exist in their thoughts and feelings. It's like that person is a non entity.
I think it's a GOOD thing that you haven't truly forgotten her. . .. she still exists in your memory and she remains important. It's okay if her absences doesn't hurt or wound you. That means that you're dealing with your issues appropriately but it doesn't mean that she becomes unimportant or non existent. Just my take on things!

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Originally Posted by Jaybird57

Personally, I'm inclined to go to the old addage, "I think you protest too much."
The fact that you posted here says to me that you're probably thinking about her more than you think or want to admit. .. Or perhaps you're thinking about how much you're NOT thinking about her.. . sorry but that still counts as thinking about or remembering the person.
If a person truly and totally forgets or lets go of an important relationship, they don't think, remember, dream or talk about the person that they have forgotten. The person ceases to exist in their thoughts and feelings. It's like that person is a non entity.
I think it's a GOOD thing that you haven't truly forgotten her. . .. she still exists in your memory and she remains important. It's okay if her absences doesn't hurt or wound you. That means that you're dealing with your issues appropriately but it doesn't mean that she becomes unimportant or non existent. Just my take on things!

Man, you're on to me. But really - I have no memory of...

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This was me for the past 2 weeks. My t went on vacation for a week and I completely could relate to you when you said,

I barely remember she exists. Isn't that fantastic? In fact, I see no reason to continue seeing her when she returns. I can't even remember why I'm in therapy.

But I went back yesterday and didn't even think about the session beforehand like i usually do. Normally I agonize over what will happen and what happened last time, etc. I overthink the entire thing and this time I was kind of "la dee da, off to therapy I go!" about it. I really, truly, honestly couldn't remember WHY I ever started going there to begin with!!

It was awesome.

Until I got there. I felt the rush of feelings come back....like a delayed reaction, it occurred to me how much his absence affected me.

And today, I'm a mess. Can't get him or therapy out of my head. Back to square one...