[Out_of_denial]

If you don't know my story, my T didn't show up for an appointment on Nov 10th ,10 days later without hearing from her I begged her to talk to me and she said she just forgot. I flipped out and sunk deeper into depression. I ended up at a particial hospital day program as duely diagnosed with depression and being a pot head.

I just couldn't totally quit smoking and it didn't feel right to lie about it, so after 8 days I dropped out. However, about 4 days into it, my depression totally lifted. Years of it. Its been a few weeks and I'm still good. I feel alive and like doing things.

I also got over my T. She played with my head once more by offering me an appointment at a different office for the next day. It was a time she knows I can't come. When I emailed and called for an appointment the next week, she never got back to me.

I wrote her a letter of closing for myself and I just feel sad about it now. I saw the clinical director as a new T at the same clinic last Thursday. I'm not going back. Besides that I don't feel depressed at all and I'd rather save the money, I can not reconcile in my head to get involved with a new T.

I would NEVER have thought my T could sit there one week saying what great relationship we have and the next week it's over. It was devastating to me and she just didn't care. She had NO concern for me what-so-ever. She LIED. I didn't think I was a favorite client, but I certainly thought she at least liked me and cared about me.

If she can do it, so can another T. Not to mention looking back, the way she did therapy actually made me depressed. I remember thinking many times if feeling depressed over therapy is worth it. There are other red flags as well.

I think about it now and I feel sad for her. If she's not a psychopath, then she must feel some remorse. I like to think that she did care about me and just took a horribly wrong turn somewhere. I hope she gets back on track. I was told I am not the only one it happened to. So now I am just part of an abandoned group. They are really slow in firing her. Which is another reason I don't want to go see this new T. Its the same time and place as first T and I met. I hate walking past her office and seeing her stuff in there. I suppose I would be sad if one day it was gone also. I'd rather just avoid the whole street.

Amy

[mcl6136]

good for you for writing the closing letter. That took courage, I think.

[roads]

Originally Posted by Out_of_denial

now I am just part of an abandoned group. They are really slow in firing her. Which is another reason I don't want to go see this new T. Its the same time and place as first T and I met. I hate walking past her office and seeing her stuff in there. I suppose I would be sad if one day it was gone also. I'd rather just avoid the whole street.

Amy, you were treated badly. No other way to say it. I fully empathize. I went to my T appt one day & he'd moved his practice. Never did call to see what happened to me.

But I've had other Ts who've taken excellent care of me. You say you can't reconcile getting involved with a new T, but the fact that walking past your exT's office bothers you so & that you'd rather avoid the whole street her office is on suggests that her treatment of you is an issue you're not done with. You've referred to yourself as part of an "abandoned group".

Im glad your depression has lifted, but I hope you'll rethink returning to the clinic and seeing a new therapist. Do make sure, though, that the clinic director understands what you've been through and that you feel abandoned--that this has becomes an issue.

Please think about this.

Roadrunner

I am still so sad that this happened. Completely unfair to you. I'm glad you wrote that letter--good for you
I can relate to the shock of 1 week the t stuff being good and the next week its over. Several years ago, my 1st T acted like everything was FINE on Tuesday; things were great between us. On Thursday, out of NOWHERE, she dumped me-- I still am not clear why. She never answered any emails, there was never any closure. I'm sorry your T hurt you in this way too.