most awkward moment!

No, you should not say it-- do not tell your T "actually your face is rather plain." Talking about her beautiful soul-- and leaving it at that-- was perfect.

I can relate to your experience as well. My T has a beautiful soul and, often, when I look at her, the person she is on the inside colors the way I see her on the outside. But, truth be told, she's not exactly a looker. That, however, is something I keep to myself. I could certainly tell T "you're beautiful" and mean it- I just wouldn't clarify that it's what's on the inside I was looking at. After all, the way we "see" people is not an objective observation of the person standing before us-- rather, it is the way our eyes, language, and experience mediate what's there.

My most awkward moment was when I described what I imagined T's daughter to look like, and described MYSELF to a tee.

That made me laugh SO hard.

Well tonight my T was a little late and started off the session by saying that he had to cover his wood I said "what are you talking about!? Lol! Then he explains he was covering wood at home because it was raining..he totally smelled like it too..lol! But my immediate reaponse was to think dirty lol!

I'm sorry, I overreacted. I really should be more considerate of our age differences and length of time in therapy. I can laugh about these things with my T, as we have discussed them six ways till Tuesday, but you have just started on this journey, and I should respect and honor that. That being said, you are a smart girl - you are struggling with transference issues; he gave you an opening - use it. As someone else said here tonite, it's all grist for the mill. This was not a pass, but you can acknowledge you are a big girl too. I don't know if you can relate to this, but I kinda play this fantasy in my head, my T would love me IF - if I lost weight, if I were cute, if my hair was nicer, if I smelled better, if I wore lipstick, if I wrote a book! A lot of ifs! These ifs aren't about T - he loves me NOW. He's my T. My family - they are the ones who trained me to think in ifs. If only I did this or that, then they would love me. But that love never came. So T is trying to train me out of thinking like that. Which is the whole point of "believing" he loves me and totally trusting him. Again, I apologize, and I hope this helps.

These are so funny

Our most awkward moment was when she came and sat by me on the couch and held my hand. I have a phobia of human touch, so I started shaking and not being able to breathe or think and pretty soon I fainted. When I woke up in her arms, but I wasn't sure if I should sit up so I was like "can I sit up or should I lie here?" and she laughed and said I could sit up. That was pretty awkward.

I assume Hankster is apologising to StormyAngels, and not to me.

These are so funny. I would turn bright bright red in some of these situations.

My T and I have had awkward moments talking about sex, definitely... Especially when we're dealing with my ptsd from a sexual assault. Once she asked if there were new positions my husband and I could try that wouldn't resemble the assault, and I was like "We invent positions all the time! But it's really hard to get off when your ankles are 10 feet away from eachother and your hip pops out of socket!" It wouldn't have been awkward for me except that she didn't laugh, she just looked at me pretty confused like. I wanted to ask if she was a virgin or something. Ha!

Ow ow ow ow ow ow ow! Did that really happen?