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#1
Dec 11, 2011, 11:41 AM
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So if anyone read my past post about EMDR you may have a bit more information if not hear is the jist.
I want to do EMDR and it was put on the table to do it now i am running out of time and in a way to put it gasping for air to do this. We all know it's what i need but i have been to unstable to start it. I am now ok and today i went to many many old places that have memories to complete the puzzle of what happened to cause me to need this and i coped just about but this would be hard for anyone. I am wandering weather or not to email my T to tell him what i did today, how well i coped (kind of) and a idea of what i will be bringing to my session on Wednesday and i have now prepared a way of coping for after and the week in between sessions. We only get 50 minutes every week so i don't want to waste time telling him all this when we could be doing constructive work. Hope someone can help me make a decision because i'm stuck. Should i email him or not?
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Dec 11, 2011, 12:12 PM
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I am one of a select few of my T's clients who is allowed to email her with boundaries. She trusts me because I work in the mental health field also. She said I can send whatever I want and she will read it. I just can't expect a reply. Occasionally, she will reply if I ask her to, but I try not to take advantage of it anymore. I did take advantage of it once and she cut me off. She was very careful to say that she wasn't angry with me, nor did she think I was crazy (it was a drunk email), she just couldn't practice therapy via email. I appreciate the fact that she allowed me to make the mistake and learn from it!
So to you, I would say, go ahead! 
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Dec 11, 2011, 12:18 PM
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A poll? Hhhmmm, I think you could look inside and find your own answer.
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Dec 11, 2011, 12:25 PM
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The poll was a more general idea of how people think on this issue not aimed at my question.
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Things don't happen over time magically, they happen over time with work. Being normal is overrated. I am young and crazy in a world where normal, decent people construct nuclear weapons. |
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Dec 11, 2011, 12:27 PM
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Good job with the work you did today!
Do you email your T already and is that part your relationship with T? Some Ts will discuss email in the next session anyway. My t has told me not to do therapy outside of therapy so an email is more of an invitation to discuss then I mastered that now let's move on type of thing. Also while it sounds like you want to get to the important work and with only a few sessions left and that is understandable. However having thorough discussions about coping skills is very useful and covering it it an email so you can move on may be risky (if I understand you correctly). It is great that you coped today and know what to do in the future but other times you may need to stand on some of the coping skills and information that a more complete discussion of them would yield. |
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Dec 11, 2011, 12:52 PM
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Thanks it was so hard. I don't email him usually we only used email to arrange the first appointment and it was never discussed. I'm already 15 out of 20 sessions in so i'm getting desperate for him to do the work i need with me. I wouldn't say to much in the email nothing that would require an answer.
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Things don't happen over time magically, they happen over time with work. Being normal is overrated. I am young and crazy in a world where normal, decent people construct nuclear weapons. |
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Dec 11, 2011, 12:57 PM
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It sounds like you very much want to share this with your therapist - what pulls you back from the idea of doing that?
My T welcomes emails and they have given us much to talk about! |
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Dec 11, 2011, 01:01 PM
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Everything i say gets discussed in his team meetings with about 20 other people so i'm careful what i put down on paper because that can't be argued. I've lost trust in the whole mental health service right now but do still hold a tiny bit of trust for him (don't know why). I just want to be so sure i'm making the right decision. I've wrote the email looked it over hundreds of time just scared to press send in case some part gets taken the wrong way or anything comes back to bite me.
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Things don't happen over time magically, they happen over time with work. Being normal is overrated. I am young and crazy in a world where normal, decent people construct nuclear weapons. |
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Dec 11, 2011, 01:08 PM
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Ok no more debating I've sent it and just hope for a positive result!
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Dec 11, 2011, 01:28 PM
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I hope it is a positive experience too!
Clicking on 'send' can make the heart race!
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Dec 11, 2011, 03:40 PM
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Just thought in the end he is shoving me onto someone else (or trying) so what's the worse that can happen.
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Things don't happen over time magically, they happen over time with work. Being normal is overrated. I am young and crazy in a world where normal, decent people construct nuclear weapons. |
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Dec 11, 2011, 04:03 PM
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Quote:
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Dec 11, 2011, 04:07 PM
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He already knows and showed how much he wanted to know by me having a major panic attack outside the building after him telling me (and a complete breakdown) someone went to get help from inside and all he said was i know she's struggling with the change and left me to it. I really have lost trust in him and the whole service right now that's part of the reason i was so cautious about emailing him.
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Things don't happen over time magically, they happen over time with work. Being normal is overrated. I am young and crazy in a world where normal, decent people construct nuclear weapons. |
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Dec 11, 2011, 04:08 PM
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Plus he wasn't with a client because the man who went to get him said he was having a cup of tea chatting.
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Things don't happen over time magically, they happen over time with work. Being normal is overrated. I am young and crazy in a world where normal, decent people construct nuclear weapons. |
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Dec 12, 2011, 06:04 AM
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He emailed me back and was very calm even answered questions i didn't even ask, glad i did it now. thanks for all your help.
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Things don't happen over time magically, they happen over time with work. Being normal is overrated. I am young and crazy in a world where normal, decent people construct nuclear weapons. |
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