How does T end your session?

Maybe the other person has trouble transitioning and asked the T for help?

My T is really quite talented at winding things down, generally. Only a couple of times have we gone over. And twice, I've left feeling incredibly shaky and horrible. After the second time, I told him about it, and when we had about ten minutes left of that session, he asked me what he could do so that I wouldn't have that feeling after the session. I asked him if he would touch me so I would feel like he didn't think I was gross and repulsive, and then immediately freaked inside my head thinking that HE would think I meant something creepy, but he didn't take it in a creepy way. He just gently asked if it was okay if he hugged me. I adore him.

My T doesn't even walk me to the door of the office!

I pointed this out early in our relationship, so she did it a couple of times and then said, ""I'm not going to walk you to the door again."

It was because of things like this that I used to find her cold and steely.

It's bad manner to treat some people better than others in a such an obvious way.

I assume my T is the same with everyone.

My T is on internet banking. We don't do receipts any more.

my chair faces a clock so i pretty much watch the time and monitor myself to be prepared to go on the hour. he always ends sessions by saying "time to break camp"

That's the word my T used, transitioning. Now our sessions are like 80% transition, 20% session. Okay, not really, but we don't skimp on hello goodbye (mum never kissed or hugged me goodbye when she left for work, she didn't want to mess up her lipstick, and I was yucky, full of spaghetti sauce at the dinner table, she didn't want to soil her white uniform). I wear a watch and it seems I always look at it when there are exactly 10 minutes left, but he likes to say when it's time to stop - I guess it defines who keeps it safe, who makes the rules, whose room is it anyway? I had no rules, no good authority growing up, just stupid unreasonable restrictions, so I try to soak it in, in a positive way.

i think its an assumption to say someone is being treated "better" than someone else...that assigns intent to the therapist that may not actually be there.

i know that my clients are very different people with very different needs, so i approach their treatments differently....i am, however, always open for inquiries about why things are done in certain ways...

I used to be conscious of the time and so would monitor what I was saying if we were nearing the end of the 60 minutes. However T said it was for him to worry about the time and so I trust him with it now.

He will give a 2-3 minute warning and will start to wind things down - occasionally we have overrun by 5-10 minutes, or if I have had a difficult session he has allowed me to just sit and collect myself before I leave.

This is something my T is very skilled with. I don't recall her ever saying "time's up." She seems to know how to steer the conversation to a conclusion and usually starts making comments about what my goals for the next few weeks should be.

I'm also very conscious of the time, so I make an effort to wrap up what I'm saying too. But I do notice that she is very good at directing a conversation in a particular direction. That probably sounds manipulative but I don't think she tries to manipulate our sessions for her benefit or anything!

I wondered about this statement at first, then I realized, yes, that's true in "regular" society; that would be something you would emphasize to an Aspergic child, in teaching good manners. It's something I tried to tell my mother, that she needed to talk to me more, not just my brother, when I was about 7 years old. Shows how freakin important simple manners can be in the family.

Since we spend the last 15 minutes doing scheduling and payment, he gently steers the session to that point. However, since I'm the last patient before the weekend, he would allow me to run over if I needed to.

My T has always been very good with the transition into closing and it has changed as we go...in the beginning he mostly would say "it was good to see you" and I knew then that we would talk about next session and would hug. Now it has evolved into him asking how I would like to close the session and I always say in prayer, or he will now just ask if I would like to close the session in prayer and he will come over and sit next to me and we will pray and then hug and leave! I have come to feel so much comfort and security in the closing process and makes the ending easier on me-because they can produce such extreme anxiety for me-I like knowing how it will be-I also like how he will ask me each time how I want to do it even if it is always the same : )

My T would just say, "It's time to stop now" but usually would do it when I was flagging :-) or had finished a sentence or thought. I would then get my check out and give it to her and we'd both get up and go to the door so there was still a minute or two for a comment or two or a question, etc. Sometimes she would say it was time to stop and then suggest something for me to think about before next session or otherwise transition that way.

ya know with getting into this as Time goes on and Knowing myself and knowing I have went over time, and not meaning to--- I do look at the clock while in session- T does not, but I do-- As reaching towards the ends of sessions, I like to say if we have just a short minute i need to mention this too--- Usually I am still talking to T about Non type of issue things as we are walking out-- I.e/ making bears this season, or such

There are times that I do forget to look at the clock or i am wrapped up- T has said sometimes, we are near the end of session or some of the sort in a nice way- which is fine-- I feel horrible when I run over 20 minutes and we both did not realize it or she wants to hear what I am saying--

The pdoc is saw the other day kept saying sorry we don't have more time- which I told her it was ok- I see how busy they all are, and it is ok.

which it is- I go to a county though- not sure how a "profession in their own practice" is.

I talk a lot some times in the office-- sadly even my first intake session we went over time cuz i kept talking--- I was shocked, but I want help with my stuff and am Trying my best to get out what i can, and with T what I can't i am trying best to bring it up-- but I am running out of time with that-- set sessions with T- trying best, but I may have to re-enroll some where if i can find something, IF... and now i am rambling sorry

My former Ts used to say "it's time to stop" or "we just have a couple of minutes left". I used to watch the clock because I never wanted my session to end. I still don't want them to end, but my current T ususually gives me enough warning so that we can wrap things up. Often my eyes are closed so I don't know how much time we have left but I can usually tell if she doesn't say anything. Often she asks "how can we end so you're all right" or something to that effect. She used to go over the time but she usually has someone after me now so she can't. If I'm her last client she says we can walk out together and we do. She never just says "it's time to go. Good-bye".

When I was in couples t, he always said "we have to end now" and looked down, at the exact time we were supposed to end. It usually felt bad, like there were a lot more things I wanted to talk about, and it totally amazed me that he could know so precisely what time it was.

It is really odd, and nice, that he's so different now. I look at the clock or my watch a lot during the session, sometimes because I guess I want it to end more quickly, sometimes because I want to make sure I don't get caught up in something when there's not enough time left. In spite of that, I don't always notice when the end of the time has come. He has sometimes said when it was time to end, but he usually keeps letting the session go on, 5 or 10 minutes over. I start uncomfortably touching my wallet, waiting for him to get ready to make another appointment. Now once we've run over time, he asks me if I have to get back to work. Maybe he wants me to end the sessions.

My T keeps a close watch on the clock and is skilled in winding down (even if sometimes I don't want to stop). If we're talking about something difficult, it might seem abrupt, but the abruptness is 5 minutes or so before I have to leave. She says she wants to make sure that I have a chance to collect myself, which I appreciate. When we meet on Friday afternoons she'll generally ask me at the end my plans for the weekend as a way to pull us out of deeper stuff. We always hug at the end.

My t always tells me about 5 minutes before hand that we have to end our session, then she gives me a handshake....

It has been interesting reading all of the ways that sessions come to an end.

I cannot see the clock during sessions, and for the longest time, I could sense when our time was up. I could just tell that he was thinking it was up, but he wouldn't say it. His demeanor changed, his attention shifted, and I imagined him thinking "shut the f**k up", and "get the f**k out of here".

It made me feel really uncomfortable. So I started telling him when our time was up. He would act surprised and finally asked how I knew. I told him, and since that day, he now says "our time is up". I like that much better.