[maggyjo]

If they like seeing you? I don't expect "wow Maggyjo is coming today", because I am dificult. But I want to know does she think, "Ugh Maggyjo is coming today good thing it's only an hour".

If you did what was your T's response.

Maggyjo

[roads]

You will probably be interested in following Chopin99's thread on this same idea & more:
http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=209596

[sittingatwatersedge]

I did ask once, a long time ago. She said that she looks forward to seeing me. I don't believe it (no reason for it IMO) and I don't ask any more.
(I am wayyy staying out of that other thread -
as to whether i have made an impact on my T or her life - ha.)

Maggyjo, do you plan to ask? Any thoughts on what T will reply?

[rainbow8]

I didn't ask if she liked seeing me but I asked her if she liked me. She told me that she likes me very much and that she cares about me a lot. She told me last week and this week that she will never forget me. So I think if I asked her if she looked forward to seeing me she would say yes.

My former Ts were not so open and would not tell me that they liked me or looked forward to seeing me or if they didn't. So even if your T won't answer you it doesn't mean she doesn't like you. My T also said that she likes all her clients.

[Perna]

Being difficult is not so bad if you reframe it to being "interesting" or "challenging"?

I once talked to a T (not mine or a T for anyone I knew) who talked about clients who were kind of boring because they moved so slowly, "it was like watching grass grow". I was never that kind; I felt I was moving slowly but it wasn't because I had nothing to work on, I definitely was not grass growing, more like thistles and having to figure out how to bush whack them effectively :-)

[sweepy62]

Originally Posted by maggyjo

If they like seeing you? I don't expect "wow Maggyjo is coming today", because I am dificult. But I want to know does she think, "Ugh Maggyjo is coming today good thing it's only an hour".

If you did what was your T's response.

Maggyjo

yes i asked if i was a client that she didnt dread seeing lol she says i am a personable person easy to talk to and i have a sense of humor i guess i took it that she likes me but she didnt come straight out and say it, i would think that some t do enjoy clients company in session and some clients they dont but t still has to work with them

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by Perna

I definitely was not grass growing, more like thistles and having to figure out how to bush whack them effectively :-)

My T actually said yesterday, "You said you were going to do this, and you did!" Heard ya loud and clear, buddy.

[wheeler]

Yes, I have asked similar questions, and a few weeks ago she even brought in a list of 'what she's gotten from me'! But I have 5 or 6 other T's that I never asked the question and wouldn't think of it. We just didn't have that kind of relationship.

[Chopin99]

Even more than the other thread I posted (although I certainly appreciate all the feedback on the other thread), you may want to look at this one. Nobody has commented on it, but I plan to cut the BS from the first thread and be a little more forward with it. I plan to ask her this in session tomorrow:

http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=209647

I do trust her enough that whatever her answer is, it will be therapeutic. I'll post her reaction tomorrow. She keeps saying she wants me to open up; well, she's gonna get it in spades.

[Nelliecat]

No, but i have asked her if I'm the most awkward, difficult client she has and she very emphatically said no. Does that count as liking me?!

Yes and she has told me many times that she likes our talks & that our time goes by too fast.

My T told me that he "adores" me and looks forward to seeing me. Course, part of that may have been my telling him about the thing my mother said to me about other people only acting like they like me because they don't know me as well as she does. BUT, be that as it may, he told me that more he gets to know me, the more he likes me and my mother was and is just abusive.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by maggyjo

If they like seeing you? I don't expect "wow Maggyjo is coming today", because I am dificult. But I want to know does she think, "Ugh Maggyjo is coming today good thing it's only an hour".

If you did what was your T's response.

Maggyjo

I did ask, and she said I was "a pleasure to work with". She wouldn't lie about a thing like that, but it's still difficult to believe!

[skysblue]

I wouldn't dare ask such a question directly but I have said, "You must dread the hour that I come in." So, I guess that's a backassward way of asking. And she's responded, "On the contrary, I look forward to our sessions." I think my T is so good she will always look interested in whoever is her client. BUT, she still does make me feel liked. Of course I have said, "You must detest me. You must despise me. I must sicken you." And on and on. So, her denying that has helped me feel like she just might actually possibly like me a little bit.