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Jan 03, 2012, 01:30 AM
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so relating to something treehouse said about a possible boundary crossing and spiralling
 Actually I haven't crossed a boundary with this "t"....(no one on pc) but I still feel myself spiralling and wondering. Wondering too if there is something passive aggressive in this person "t" who I'm seeing. Ugh. Sorry not more detailed A t I saw for a long time (4 years plus) most definitely was passive aggressive. I didn't realise it at the time. dumb dumb dumb bear  life sucks (sometimes) (hope its ok to post this treehouse, if not I'll delete it) (feeling like I shouldn't be on this planet right now. )
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Jan 03, 2012, 02:19 AM
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(((((((((((((furrypaws))))))))))))
I am so sorry you had a passive aggressive T. That is not right. But it is not your fault. Often we are so used to that behavior because of trauma/abuse that it seems normal and so we don't see it. Other times people are so smooth at doing it that we don't see it. That does not make it our fault. Life does suck sometimes. I'm sorry you are in such a bad place right now. I hope that your work with your current T is going well.  
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Jan 03, 2012, 02:47 AM
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I must be really dumb then, by that reasoning, because I kept seeing a T for 7 years who was passive aggressive and kept hurting me and keeping me stuck. It sure makes it hard to trust anyone again, after you have been hurt by someone who was supposed to help you. You learned from it, right? So you're not dumb, because you can learn. And you are very brave for trying again and getting help now. Talk to the T about what you feel uncomfortable about, and why it makes you feel like something is wrong. That is how therapy works. When you feel something that you have felt before, you have the chance to understand it, and that is how you heal.
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#4
Jan 03, 2012, 04:40 AM
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(((fuzzybear)))
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#5
Jan 12, 2012, 08:29 PM
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You're not dumb! That was a bad T- it's not you're fault he/she was manipulative. That's terrible! I hope you get a nice T that genuinely wants to help you, you deserve it.
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Jan 12, 2012, 08:33 PM
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I wish you could get some peace. You worry and hurt so much.
I wish you could find peace from that.
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Jan 12, 2012, 09:25 PM
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Maybe even good feelings, like trust and closeness, remind you so much of that awful T that you begin to feel afraid and your fear makes it seem as if this person in your life is becoming like your awful T.
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