[learning1]

For those of you who read my post yesterday, the update is there was nowhere close to any yelling. T didn't seem to have anything in mind to talk about.

We started talking about some things going on in my life and got into some family stuff. The whole time I had my last session on my mind. Finally I said I also wanted to talk about last session a little. I struggled to say it, but I told him I appreciate that he's really nice to me a lot of the time, even though I was talking about times when I didn't think he was being nice at the last session. He said thanks for saying that. I started on to another topic but he came back to this. The really nice thing he said was he's had to work on being more nurturing and not pushing sometimes. He said some more about it but I don't remember the exact words. Touched on his FOO. It felt so good that he cared what I thought.

Anyway, I managed to feel good about that 'til the afternoon, then started getting anxious that he said he tends to push, then started feeling good about it again tonight. I remembered pbutton's thread where she said she can hold onto the feelings every 5 minutes. I guess I have some work to do to catch up- I seem to be on a half day schedule.

[faith1983]

I'm so glad everything went fine for you

[healed84]

Glad your T had some reassuring things to say to you today!!

[granite1]

this was so good to read you were so worried

Our T's are rarely the ogres we imagine them to be.

[pbutton]

Originally Posted by learning1

Anyway, I managed to feel good about that 'til the afternoon, then started getting anxious that he said he tends to push, then started feeling good about it again tonight. I remembered pbutton's thread where she said she can hold onto the feelings every 5 minutes. I guess I have some work to do to catch up- I seem to be on a half day schedule.

I'm not sure I have any sage words to add, but I can certainly tell you that I totally get where you're coming from here!

Look at you, all confrontational and all

I am just really pleased that you were able to raise this with him, despite-- if I remember correctly-- that you promised you would not because it was too hard. Doing these kinds of things despite the fact that they are hard is such good progress. We are all noticing that.

And I am really happy that he gave you a kind of response that showed he cared about giving you what you need, and that he acknowledged that what you felt was accurate.

It's rarely the case, in my experience, that people intuit what I need and give it to me. But when I can actually say what I need and then I get it, that's awfully wonderful. Or even when they try but don't succeed, that's still wonderful.

Anne