I am her Puppet

I posted this in the Things t's should say but I know want some feedback specifically about this

I went and saw my t yesterday, she is like my mums age and has teenage kids about my age. Anyway she said she had great things planned for me and that I was her PUPPET! I can't get over that she said that to me knowing that I'm paranoid about things. I dont want to be controlled by anyone or anything. I don't know if I can get past this.

I know/think she knows that what she said was inappropriate and not helpful

Any thought, opinions or suggestions? This is really playing on me

I posted a reply on the things T should not say thread, but here i'll just say i'm sorry your T said this to you. It was definitely a dumb thing to say, and you are NOT her puppet. Does she normally say things like this? What was the context of the conversation? Sending
you hugs if that's ok.

She is normally really good, never said anything directly inappropriate like this before. I dont know if its just me but i'm getting a bit paranoid about her intentions and motives and a whole lot of other things.

I've been seeing her for nearly a year which is REALLY good for me. i havnt felt like she's judged me or given up on me, she sees real potential and i know i do have good potential.

The week before she said she would love to come to my university graduation (which wont be for another 3+ years) and i asked if she would come to my funeral, she said no but did not say why, i asked if she had some kind of policy but she said she has gone to 1 of her past clients funerals she just wouldnt come to mine.

anyway yesterday i bought up again why she wouldnt come to my funeral and that when she said she has great things planned for me and she said that i was her puppet. i said i didnt want to be controlled and she took back the comment saying "your not my puppet"

i probs have some maternal transference atm which i feel unconfortable about and is messing up my head even more.

I don't think you should be worried about her controlling you and about her intentions if up until now she has shown to have good intentions. What I do think is that you should speak to her about this further. Next time you see her just bring up again how intense the experience was when she made that comment. It wasn't the best choice of words, but from what you have said I don't think she meant it the way it came out to you. Sounds like she wants to help. good luck.

Aw thanks Chloe for putting things into a bit of perspective. I think I will see if she brings it up at our next session if she dosnt and it's still playing on my mind the following week I will address it with her

I'm wondering if she said she wouldn't come to your funeral because you have a long life ahead of you and with her age she will probably have passed long before you. Then to immediately say she has big plans for you.... Did she take that questions as if you were saying you would die soon? The puppet comment was weird but sounds like she knew it was wrong...I think she was giving you reason to live as in I'll be at your graduation in 3 yrs.