[geez]

Knowing that old T can help me and I'm looking forward to that part.

Fearing and hating the part about therapy that I didn't like before. Feeling so attached to T. Nothing that T was projecting to me it's all feelings on my side. What is there to learn from this or is it just a casualty of going to therapy????

[CantExplain]

If you have grown since you last saw old T, you may find the attachment isn't so painful?

[Wren_]

geez, i read back and saw the thread about you considering returning either to old T or the marriage T; I gather from this it's to old T what you raised is definitely a part I find difficult as well; where sometimes it ends up that therapy ends up being more about the relationship between you and the T rather than why you are there in the first place. I hope this time round with old T it is different somehow; that going back you are able to work on what you are needing to go back for; and that things with old T go well and that there is less heartache and more ... good stuff?

[rainbow8]

I assume you're going with your H to old T. When my H and I both saw my T together it wasn't the same because I had to share him. I didn't like that, but I found it productive. I was still seeing her individually, of course, so that's different from you. There's always the chance you'll develop those feelings again, but I think you had a very good closure with your T and put those feelings behind you. I think it's going to work for you.

If the attachment happens again, you will be more prepared for it. Maybe you can tell yourself, "it's just that attachment again, and it's okay. I can deal with it". Or, if it doesn't work out with old T, you can see the other one, can't you? I do think that for a lot of us, the attachment is going to be there no matter what, and we have to accept it, work with it, and not see it as our "enemy".

[geez]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

I assume you're going with your H to old T.

I do think that for a lot of us, the attachment is going to be there no matter what, and we have to accept it, work with it, and not see it as our "enemy".

I'm going back to my old T and I'm seeing marriage T. I'm going back to old T to talk about some things/issues that have come up for me and to help me deal with the fall out from marriage T. - Marriage T does EFT and it's something I tried at our last appt. I felt like I got ran over by a truck emotionally but in a good way. It brought up some feelings that my conscience is great at burying and deflecting. It's like I got knocked off balance and then I was able to see for a second what's been buried with past traumas etc...

Today I had my appt with the old T and told her why I needed her help and I think therapy sucks The part where she can help me with my issues is great but the fear of being attached part sucks (as I was very attached to her before) :-) She told me that she could help me with my situation now and the attachment issue we could work on later. Obviously I can't live on her couch and I obviously know that but it still hurts. She also told me attachment is a form of growing up (something I never experienced in a healthy way with my parents).Sometimes I wish thoughts could overpower emotions and the two would become one and make sense. It would make life so much simpler!!!

I guess from my first therapeutic experience it feels a little different because I'm guarded. I don't want to go through that pain again. This time I'm really hoping I can be all 'in it' when I'm in the office and then till my next appt there is no feelings of attachment.

If the feelings of attachment where to come up again (I hope not) then what would that teach me??? All I've ever learned in life is you crave that bond with someone and then sure enough your heart gets ripped out. EVERY TIME! Sorry for being such a downer. I'm having a hard time being positive right now in anticipation for yet another painful experience.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by geez

I felt like I got ran over by a truck emotionally but in a good way.

What's a "good way" of being run over by a truck?!!!

[geez]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

What's a "good way" of being run over by a truck?!!!

LOL!! There is no good way I suppose What I meant to say was that the EFT with marriage T I experienced put me off balance and I found it emotionally and mentally exhausting. I felt 'numb'. Why is this a good thing??? Because it's better than feeling nothing. I need to weed through these repressed feelings that are holding me back and it's exhausting to say the least but I'm happy that I think this may be my answer. Fingers crossed