Is it ever acceptable for a T to get angry with a client?

I would have also my first time through therapy. My T now is trying to help me see that anger is normal and can be handled productively. That someone can be angry at me and not hurt me. I can be angry at someone else and handle it productively and not hurt myself over it.

My T has even said that he has "lost it" on me, on occasion. He feels it was wrong, I feel like it shows he is human and that he must care if I've managed to get under his skin.

More often, he gets "stern" with me like a parent trying to bluff his way through standing his ground. heh heh.

oh yeah, the reasons he gets mad-----I neglect self care like exercise, eating right, doctor's visits etc. Or, I am stuck in a rut where I have a million reasons not to do something. After a bad session, I kicked his door hard! I called his emergency number a bazillion times and I interrupted a real emergency.... I've been pretty awful actually.

It's when T subconsciously brings his own baggage into the relationship. Ts are trained not to do this, but of course it still happens.

This is the danger. If T never admits his anger, the patient will try to guess when T is angry. This only increases the patient's anxiety.

Much better to know T is angry, and to learn that anger needn't destroy the relationship. Patients will be exposed to anger in real life, and they need a way to explore that in a safe environment. So a measured, civilized, non-violent expression of T's anger is best for the patient in the long run. That's what I think.

T's frustration is a more delicate issue. T must be honest about her feelings, but patients can easily get discouraged. It does no good to tell a patient, "I am disappointed in your progress."

I don't know how a T should deal with disappointment.

I had a T shout at me before lost her temper, I dont respond well to shouting and I threw/kicked a table at her (was a blind moment of rage).

I used to push boundries though, I loved to find peoples buttons and Id push them in a way that they would be left confused as to whether I pushed them, or if they were pressing them thereselves, so chances are I probably caused her temper loss. I dont do that anymore, I locate the buttons but I dont push them.

T's buttons are the best buttons to find I dunno why I like to locate them, guess I like the knowledge that I can push them.