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Hey, I'm from the older generation and I've never heard that expression. Maybe it's a midwest colloquialism.
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With the exception of the one about apologies, her sayings have come in surprisingly handy. She was a colorful woman--a crude, colorful woman. |
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You're not alone, Skysblue. I've never heard that one either! Could be a midwest thing. I've always lived in the northeast.
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Conversation with my therapist: Doc: "You know, for the past few weeks you've seemed very disconnected from your emotions when you're here." Me: "I'm not disconnected from my emotions. I just don't feel anything when I'm here." (Pause) Me: "Doc, why are you banging your head against the arm of your chair?" Doc: "Because I'm not close enough to a wall." It's official. I can even make therapists crazy. |
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My T gets angry and calls me on my **** as dies my pDoc all the time! That's why I like them especially my pdoc, I've been with her for 22 years and she reams me at least three times a year. That's why I respect her. Uf she didn't care she wouldn't take her tine to find out how I was doing and call me on my crap and threaten to either put me on my place or put me back in the hospital if I don't shape up! I usually listen. My T is the same way they have the right to express themselves in the interest of your care for your best health they're not trying to hurt you but help you is what I get out of it.
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Another time I told him I was drinking. His eyes got real big.
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Nah. I live in almost the smack dab middle of the country and I've never heard that one. I always heard, "if wishes were horses, beggars would ride."
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Conversation with my therapist: Doc: "You know, for the past few weeks you've seemed very disconnected from your emotions when you're here." Me: "I'm not disconnected from my emotions. I just don't feel anything when I'm here." (Pause) Me: "Doc, why are you banging your head against the arm of your chair?" Doc: "Because I'm not close enough to a wall." It's official. I can even make therapists crazy. |
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mine has been frustrated with the situation that we were stuck in, and that she couldn't help out more. that is what she said, but i think she was also frustrated at me--how could you not?
i could see her getting mad if i showed up drunk or otherwise intoxicated or told her about something stupid i did that was working on sabotaging our therapy. on the other end of things, my T recently told me that i am allowed to show anger in there, and towards her!!! ![]() Another time i was talking about how i can sometimes feel uncomfortable around opening gifts with family--because some family members give me some AWFUL gifts, and i just have to fake it that i love it. my T goes "well if you got a gift in here (theoretically), you can totally tell me you hate it!" and she said it with such happiness in her face. ![]() |
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![]() i'm from the NE as well, and hadn't heard of these things. I think the first quote was more of a family thing than a cultural thing. and i bet it is a cultural thing for MKAC, you know bc there are horses and beggars out there. MKAC's quote is interesting, and made me think of beggars can't be choosers. what is the exact meaning behind yours, mkac'? |
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I just thought it was interesting to add that I emailed my T this morning, and said I was worried because I thought he was mad at me for something I said to him yesterday. He said, "I'm NOT mad, I do NOT get mad at you, I am your therapist." I guess that clears things up a bit.
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For some reason, I get great comfort out of hearing my T actually say "I am your therapist." It makes me feel all warm inside. I wonder why...
I've heard the beggars and horses thing - my family is from Ohio and from England and Scotland originally. |
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No emotions are wrong; they simply are. It is how we handle them that is important.
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Conversation with my therapist: Doc: "You know, for the past few weeks you've seemed very disconnected from your emotions when you're here." Me: "I'm not disconnected from my emotions. I just don't feel anything when I'm here." (Pause) Me: "Doc, why are you banging your head against the arm of your chair?" Doc: "Because I'm not close enough to a wall." It's official. I can even make therapists crazy. |
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I think your last sentence is basically what I meant when I wrote that the T understands our struggles, and he doesn't take it personally.
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Conversation with my therapist: Doc: "You know, for the past few weeks you've seemed very disconnected from your emotions when you're here." Me: "I'm not disconnected from my emotions. I just don't feel anything when I'm here." (Pause) Me: "Doc, why are you banging your head against the arm of your chair?" Doc: "Because I'm not close enough to a wall." It's official. I can even make therapists crazy. |
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My T was certainly angry at me when she thought I was going to dump her. I actually challenged her on this later and she said she was FURIOUS.
Now you might think this is unprofessional and you might be right. But she says her first duty is to be real with me. Meaning, I suppose, that if she is angry with me it is wrong for her to hide it. Hmmmm... This seems to be contrary to what everyone else is saying. But it works for us.
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Conversation with my therapist: Doc: "You know, for the past few weeks you've seemed very disconnected from your emotions when you're here." Me: "I'm not disconnected from my emotions. I just don't feel anything when I'm here." (Pause) Me: "Doc, why are you banging your head against the arm of your chair?" Doc: "Because I'm not close enough to a wall." It's official. I can even make therapists crazy. |
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I see nothing wrong with our therapist being angry, frustrated or upset with us. I do believe that they are human in engaging in us, hopefully, in a real and genuine manner. Do I think it's okay for any therapist to EXPRESS their emotions in an over the top way (yelling, shouting, swearing, physically aggressive actions)? Absolutely not! I want my therapist to tell me when I'm acting in a way that is eliciting strong emotions in her in a way that is controlled, modeling for me how I can express those feelings in my own life. And even if I don't see myself as being provoking or unreasonable, I want her to be real with me. It helps me to see how I should be responding in my own life to others. It teaches me to be real and genuine in my responses to others.
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i would retreat completely into my shell if my T said she was angry at me. I do not handle anger well.
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