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#26
Mar 12, 2012, 07:06 PM
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I am glad she responded and I hope your ability to explore your sexuality does not have to be suppressed because of her beliefs.
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Mar 12, 2012, 09:57 PM
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Yeah Chopin, I'm glad all is well.
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Mar 12, 2012, 10:10 PM
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Thanks everyone; I feel a bit better, although I still feel like I'm going to face her Thursday like a scolded dog re: the email boundary.
I wanted to post this response I received from my ex-GF about the whole matter: I have given your question a lot of thought and even prayers. I guess first I would like to say the obvious, you are not going to totally agree with any therapist. I think the therapist should maintain a therapeutic relationship, goal oriented first, if that is broken by the patient or the therapist then there is no longer a therapeutic relationship. The direct question about T. No matter what you should be, you are entitled to keep you beliefs and views about your thoughts about sin, the Bible and what makes you healthy or unhealthy. The total belief that you are not bisexual or heterosexual or lesbian is the way you define yourself not T's way. You have to be true to who you are because you define yourself. My therapist knows who I am... a bisexual who chooses, at this time, to be in a relationship with a man. My husband knows that there are times I really want to be with a woman. He has offered for us to look for another bisexual woman to have encounters with. I am open to that and so is he. Have we actually done it, NO! I do believe the fact that I continue to have those desires frequently in my marriage is true to the fact I am bisexual. I don't know how it is with you and H. What is true for you right now irregardless of what T says or believes. If you can make it really clear to her that you don't need a preacher to relay the do's and don'ts to go to heaven according to T. So you have to really know what "you are and what you can do to help maintain your personality and desires in life." Your mental disorders like mine come from holding back what we are. We are trying to be what everyone wants us to be. We are hiding it and then it bursts everywhere one day or it leaks out in our mental health, stress, depression, anxiety or panic attacks, desires to hurt ourselves, insomnia, or an impulsive decision, or an abuse of medications or alcohol. TO DROWN IT ALL OUT. So, in conclusion, you have to be you. That is where all this started. If you decide to be who T wants you to be then you are not you. If you decide to be who H thinks you should be then you are not you. The same goes for your parents. If we don't balance our soul, mind and body needs then they all fall apart. I hope this helps you with your decision. I would love to talk to you about this further when I have a chance to have that time. She's a pretty smart cookie, huh? That's why I  her! 
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Mar 12, 2012, 10:20 PM
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Yes, your ex-GF sounds very mature and intelligent. Her advice is excellent!!
I'm glad that your T emailed you and it seems like all will be well!! 
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Mar 13, 2012, 05:24 PM
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