Bad Behavior from Therapist?!

OMG! R U N !!!!!!

And I would for SURE find a way to say "WHAT IN THE HECK IS WRONG WITH YOU!!"

There are still some hard-core analytic therapists who will not even hand the client anything because they believe it will "contaminate the transference" or something like that... but they're usually far more polite and discreet when they need to give something to clients, generally placing the item on a table or chair, not dropping it on the floor in front of them!
This therapist just sounds confused, uncertain about her therapeutic stance, and rude.

The more I think about it, the more need I have to indeed ask, "what is wrong with you?" I indeed feel the need to let her know not only am I aware of her bad behavior, but that I"m not about to put up with it anymore. Whether via email or in person (which I'd prefer), definitely think the time has come to say exactly what's on my mind...and then split. This "dumping" will feel awfully good, and is a long-time in coming. Hopefully...she'll learn something about her own behavior?!

Um...Run.Like.Hell.ASAP!

Wow I'm sorry you have had more than one session with this T. She sounds like a nightmare.
I would start looking for a T ASAP....
How sad their are T's like this practicing.

Run away. Quickly. Contact the board of her licensure if you're comfortable. That's completely within your right, and they would benefit knowing this behavior.

WePow & Chopin99 are friends of mine.
Two very--very--different people,
with widely divergent life experience & readings on most things.

I hold them in equal regard, however, as far as being able to read the personal safety level of a situation.

Chopin99:

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Um...Run.Like.Hell.ASAP!

WePow:

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OMG! R U N !!!!!! And I would for SURE find a way to say "WHAT IN THE HECK IS WRONG WITH YOU!!"

Why are you still with that therapist?

I really think--as do many other of your posters--that that is a risky hook-up. Please, give heart-felt consideration to the responses you've solicited. People are concerned about you!

I appreciate all the posts, they have been very helpful. I appreciate all the honest answers...it has been a great way to really enable me to feel justified about her behavior. I definitely want to let her know, whichever way I choose. I think an email is the best way to get my point across...this way I cannot be interrupted, side-tracked, or redirected. She's not that bad all the time, and while I have gotten something out of therapy, I just can't overlook such behavior when it does show up.

Thanks again to all!

Really? I couldn't disagree more. I think the behavior described is not necessarily anything that the board would care about. While I'm not saying it is right, the t could make compelling arguments for why she made some of the clinical choices she did (e.g. Some styles of therapy focus in only on one issue, or the t sets the agenda). Some of the things sound to be more rude than actual clinical choices (dropping the paper) but the OP couldn't prove anything. Her word against t's. Why make leaving a drawn out process? End it, put it behind you and move on.

EJ

I agree, especially since to tell her in person means you would be PAYING her for the time it takes you to get it out, plus you'd have to deal with her reaction whatever it may be. Enough.

Email is much cheaper, in terms of $$ and also wear and tear on you.

Hope you look around & find a terrific therapist - you deserve one. Could you let us know?

I agree with Wikid - she doesn't even deserve an email. Where does she get off on the scale of human decency of just dropping that paper on the floor in front of you. She doesn't deserve your good manners in return. Look for someone new.

I really agree, and I believe this to be strongly true for me:

My compassion is often misplaced. In other words, I worry and wonder what the sh*%thead who offended me is going through.....RATHER than taking care of myself.

Which is why I stayed with a horrid T for so long, hoping it would "work" and why I challenged myself to go back in and "get heard" or whatever.

I just wasted my time and my money. You know what they say about teaching a pig to sing. You waste your time; you annoy the pig.

Cut your losses. Move on.

My two cents worth. You'll ultimately KNOW>

Just an update for all who were kind enough to share their opinions with me. I actually DID write the email, sharing quite a bit, and not easy to write, or for her to read. We met - and had a productive session. Since then she has been kinder, and warmer - and I've been a more patient, willing client as a result. It actually all worked out for the best, and some real work is being done. Who'da thunk it? But I had to at least get my feelings heard. She listened patiently, and took it very, very professionally. I learned alot from it, too. So - believe it or not - it worked out for the best!

Hooray!
Your T is willing to learn, which is a very good sign.

That is awesome! You must feel like superwoman!