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#76
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Maybe you are working up to it. Sometimes I do that, I think a lot about talking about something before I have the courage to do so. I am doing that now about a topic but this time instead of feeling pressured (by me), I feel like it is okay and I can let it be, let it continue to emerge and when the time is right... it will happen.
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#77
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I had a T who was like a mom. She helped me with sex. I felt like i was talking to my sister or a nice mom. I think i know what a nice mom would be like because of her. I miss her. Not to talk about sex just because she understood me and was so nice. I wish she were
my mom. She would be a good mom to my brother and sister too. |
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#78
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Yes, we talk about sex. We talk about all sorts of things about sex. It isn't easy to talk about -- but T's somewhat of an "expert" on sexuality and related issues.
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If I didn't talk about sex we would sit there 90% of the time with nothing to talk about. I asked her why we keep on that same subject. Her reply was, "Because it keeps coming back up. It is still causing you a great deal of pain and we need to continue to talk about it."
I honestly wonder what we would talk about if 'that' topic never came up in my therapy at all. I would have been finished a long time ago! Of course, she says it is not "sex" necessarily. It is intimacy and relationships. That is what the culprit really is. Why I have trouble getting close to people and trusting they really do want to be with (around) me. |
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Cause for me, and my personality type, I just... wait till the other person talks, in which this case is the T. There's probably gonna be a lot of awkward silences. Which will lead to being deterred not wanted to talk about it anymore. Should I just keep talking to not let any awkward gaps happen? It's the awkwardness that gets me.... <Sequence Starting>Me: Hi, Carl. How are you? T: I am well. How have you been. Me: Life's been pretty ______. T: Sounds _____. So tell me, what's going on now adays? Me: Well, I want to talk about sex~(starts out loud, ends sentence all quiet and mumbly) T: You want to talk about... shwa? What did you say? Me: ........... O_O T: .......... o_o? Me: Anyway! Uhhh -> change convo elsewhere. |
#81
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Haha, okay have to try that one! Here the hosp is state nearest private one 200km away so when u go there is a PANNEL of docs JIP the Pdoc a Social worker, a P nurse and a GP so it's kinda like an interview / cross examination and all attention is on you! Then u receive an evaluation form afterwords about ur eye contact and bla bla... So talking about sex NOPE...
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#82
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Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby! |
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#84
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It def gets u out of ur comfort zone as it's men and women, but they probably hear weird things all day long!
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My mother only went to 3rd grade, in Italy, before she was pulled out of school to work on the farm. She writes the most endearing letters, I love her misspellings, they are simply brilliant, I can see how she came up with them. But she thinks i'm laughing at her. It's sad, that she can't appreciate that I DO appreciate her. She wants me to like her for other reasons, if she wants me to like her at all; I wonder. So - it's the thought that counts. sorry for the hijack. I talk about sex to T every chance I get... |
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Hopefully both!
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#87
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Yeah, basically I just go for it. It wasn't like that at first, but now that I am growing to trust him more and more I figure I might as well go for broke. I've lived long enough paralyzed by these things. That doesn't mean they come out easily -- or that they all come out at all. But I try to be direct and honest. Sometimes I have to write it down and have him read it.
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