no T, no drama

Bit of a sidetrack I know, but contact between sessions is a major source of anxiety and drama for me as well. That said, my T has been clear she won't necessarily reply to all, but she will mention any emails for discussion in the following session. She normally responds to admin related stuff via email but is reluctant to engage with emotional emails between session. I can ring her though and I think she prefers that.

I think this out of session contact business causes angst for a lot of people. It isn't good if your T has made a bargain with you and not stuck to it. It might be good to try and talk this one through with her rather than leave though. I feel upset when T doesn't respond and it has led me to avoiding the use of email, but the underlying feelings of sadness and even anger over the issue are still there. I think I need to work through them and feel the freedom in being able to do that. Much easier said than done because the whole idea scares me silly, but it's my aim.

It might help you and your T if you can tell her how her lack of replies feel particularly if she agreed with you that she would respond within a set time. Obviously it can only be your choice, but just a thought.

No, it specifies that when the subject turns from bold to regular, it means the provider read it.

Thank you for the response. I was losing my sh it today, so angry at her--while I was trying to finish all the essay questions for a take home tort law final. Hay Zeus, stress. The thing that troubles me most is that she didn't keep her word. I informed her that it was causing me a lot of distress, and she still didn't respond. I have enough trust issues without stuff like this happening that could be solved by a two minute email. "Hey, I'm sorry your friend died. We'll talk about it in session," would have been enough. It would have showed that I mattered to her.

I cannot do this again with a T that I don't matter to. She knows how nasty my last therapy experience was. Anyway, I did cancel my Friday session via email and told her I wanted to terminate. Then I called her voicemail later tonight and said to keep the appt. because I need an explanation for her behavior, and apparently it is not going to be forthcoming over email.

I just feel like if I want mixed messages and inconsistency and unreliability, hey, my family of origin already has those bases covered. Got it in spades. I don't need it from a professional too. I am wired and tired and emotionally raw. I wish I still drank. Dammit.

Also, can I just say my poor, dear, patient, loving partner putting up with my nonsense with total kindness and no judgment--that woman rocks. I love her so much.