What does trust look like?

I think all- or at least most- people have trouble starting to trust their t. I know it took me a while to trust mine with some of my most shameful stuff. I thought a lot about it though, and I couldn't figure out why I didn't trust her.

I trusted her to keep my stuff confidential- that's just a basic legal expectation and if she couldn't do that I assume she'd have lost her license a long time ago. I trusted her not to mock me partly because she is a sweetheart and partly because no one mocks me, ever (I guess I give out a pretty strong "don't you dare mock me" vibe). I didn't really care if she judged me- I kind of assume that everyone judges everyone all the time and I could care less what someone else thinks about me in their private time. I didn't have abandonment issues- in fact after we'd seen eachother about a year, she shut down her practice to have a baby. We ended up together again a year later, but at the time it was supposedly permanent and I didn't really have a problem with that.

So, why didn't I trust her? I don't really trust anyone, relationship-wise so maybe it was just habit. I finally made a concsious decision that I would trust her to do her job as a trained professional, just like I trust a cop to come to my house if I'm being robbed or a firefighter if I have a fire or a plumber if my toilet is backed up. Today I have a warm, strong relationship with her, but I still only see her as a reliable professional who is helping me clean out the septic tank that is my past. I've never asked (or cared) what she thinks of me. I bet she likes it that she can trust me to be on time with my payments.

My take is that trust is when you believe, even know, that the other person is human and may hurt you, emotionally anyway, intentionally or unintentionally, but that the person is more important to you than that, repair is possible, going forward is possible. So you dare to take the chance.

Having said, that, I don't have it mostly. I could count off the list on one hand and have fingers to spare.

Thanks everyone for your responses. It helped so much to hear what others thought of trust. I did learn that trust is anticipating that people want what is best for you...good intentions... I have learned from PC is that I do TRUST people from PC... when I am brave enough and I do post here that I do anticipate that people respond from the place where they have good intentions and they do want what is best for you....