Did I mess things up with pdoc or not?

I just got back from my pdoc appointment a few minutes ago. I've been a frettin this for awhile now along with everything else going on. Since I was in the hospital March of '05 my pdoc had me on Cymbalta . I stayed on it gave it a good try . This summer I finaly said something to him that I just think it wasnt helping any. He never changed it. I didnt say anything the next month. Then every month after I did. And he never changed it. So The beginning of February I started talking to my therapist and our marraige therapist about what they thought about the other pdoc in the clinic and their suggestion on how to go about "firing " this pdoc. I have constantly been going over the conversation how to do this. I thought it was going ok. But in the end he said to me. You better stick wtih him( meaning the new pdoc) because I may refuse to take you back. And there are no other pdocs in the clinic. Then I will be in trouble. This new pdoc is supposed to be so much more open and easy to talk to . While this one that I had is poker faces and intimidating to me. And I have a very hard time opening up to him. I did this because I felt it was the right thing to do for me. But what if its not? What if I totally messed up here? My therapist and our marraige therapist think the new pdoc will be a good match. So I am going on their guesses that he is the right one. Thanks for listening again.

Hugz~
Beth

I wouldn't worry about it. We switched from Dr. Quack to Hubby's current pdoc and loved him. We told Dr. Quack it was just a scheduling conflict and she was more than helpful getting us switched.

Consider this Beth, even if the new guy isn't the be all end all pdoc, do you really want to go back to your old doc? So his taking you back really won't be an issue. It just sounds like he just got his panties in a twist over it. Sounds like you're not the first one to ask to switch.

You'll be fine. You can get along with anyone.

Beth,

I am in agreement, you didn't mess up at all. You don't need a pdoc that you can't talk to. It is as important for them to listen to you as your therapy is. In my case, my psychologist & pdoc work together & know each other personally besides business.

Sounds like your old pdoc isn't anyone you would want to go back to anyway, & if your therapists think that the new one will be a better fit, they probably know the pdocs & definately know you through the therapy. Trust their judgment & you will be much better off having a pdoc that will work with you instead of not listening like the pdoc you had.

The first pdoc I was with for any time, ended up dropping me because of OD'ing issues. The one I ended up with now was assigned to me at one of my hospital stays. The first time I talked with him, I really didn't think he was going to be ok.....for some reason we just didn't hit it off & I felt like we were going in different directions. I asked for a change, but the staff suggested that I sit down I discuss my issues with him. We talked it over, & settled things. I have been with him now for over 8 years & he is the greatest pdoc I could have ever ended up with. He is so knowledgable & does alot of research on top of his practice. He is into alternative methods of treatment & had tried many different treatments....one of them being light therapy (which didn't work either). He truly feels that I am the one that controls my condition & that therapy is about the best help of all because I have such a strong willed mind. He does provide the meds that I have found that work & listens to what I think is working & why & how much it takes to work & when. He is no longer in a state where he thinks I will be OD'ing any more, so is willing to provide me with samples, sometimes 3 months at a time when I am not having problems like I am now. He adjusts the appointment times depending on my psychological state.....when I am doing good, it's 3 months, but mostly it is every month. He doesn't hospitalize unless he feels it is absolutely necessary now. He listens to everything I have to say, even the things I & my psychologist are dealing with in therapy.

I am sure you will find that your new pdoc is much better than the one you have had.....a positive attitude & even open up about your feelings of being uneasy with the change will let him know how to work with you the best way possible. The more he knows about you, the better he will be able to treat you. Issues with meds, experiences & side effects you have experienced are all important for him to know. I know that I have bad reactions to all the psych meds except for a few....he knows & never pushes anything on me that I feel uncomfortable with. Sometimes I am willing to see if something new works & he listens to what my reactions are to the med & never forces me into anything I have problems with. I found from the rough start that being completely open with him really helped the Dr patient relationship & the respect we have for each other.

I am sure you didn't mess anything up......& am sure you will be much better off that with the pdoc you described that you had.

Debbie

Beth,

I am in agreement, you didn't mess up at all. You don't need a pdoc that you can't talk to. It is as important for them to listen to you as your therapy is. In my case, my psychologist & pdoc work together & know each other personally besides business.

Sounds like your old pdoc isn't anyone you would want to go back to anyway, & if your therapists think that the new one will be a better fit, they probably know the pdocs & definately know you through the therapy. Trust their judgment & you will be much better off having a pdoc that will work with you instead of not listening like the pdoc you had.

The first pdoc I was with for any time, ended up dropping me because of OD'ing issues. The one I ended up with now was assigned to me at one of my hospital stays. The first time I talked with him, I really didn't think he was going to be ok.....for some reason we just didn't hit it off & I felt like we were going in different directions. I asked for a change, but the staff suggested that I sit down I discuss my issues with him. We talked it over, & settled things. I have been with him now for over 8 years & he is the greatest pdoc I could have ever ended up with. He is so knowledgable & does alot of research on top of his practice. He is into alternative methods of treatment & had tried many different treatments....one of them being light therapy (which didn't work either). He truly feels that I am the one that controls my condition & that therapy is about the best help of all because I have such a strong willed mind. He does provide the meds that I have found that work & listens to what I think is working & why & how much it takes to work & when. He is no longer in a state where he thinks I will be OD'ing any more, so is willing to provide me with samples, sometimes 3 months at a time when I am not having problems like I am now. He adjusts the appointment times depending on my psychological state.....when I am doing good, it's 3 months, but mostly it is every month. He doesn't hospitalize unless he feels it is absolutely necessary now. He listens to everything I have to say, even the things I & my psychologist are dealing with in therapy.

I am sure you will find that your new pdoc is much better than the one you have had.....a positive attitude & even open up about your feelings of being uneasy with the change will let him know how to work with you the best way possible. The more he knows about you, the better he will be able to treat you. Issues with meds, experiences & side effects you have experienced are all important for him to know. I know that I have bad reactions to all the psych meds except for a few....he knows & never pushes anything on me that I feel uncomfortable with. Sometimes I am willing to see if something new works & he listens to what my reactions are to the med & never forces me into anything I have problems with. I found from the rough start that being completely open with him really helped the Dr patient relationship & the respect we have for each other.

I am sure you didn't mess anything up......& am sure you will be much better off that with the pdoc you described that you had.

Debbie