In honor of Wikid's comment, what would you put on a mother's day card?

I know mine would say:

Mom,
Happy Mother's Day. Please find the $20 gift card to Red Lobster. I'll just add it to the $60,000 I've had to pay out in therapy for which you still owe me.

All the best.

Your daughter.

Can I write my card to PC? I just realized this is my first mother's day on PC, as I joined last June or July, and I am so grateful not to be white-knuckling it thru the day alone. o'course, it's only ten in the morning where I am, long day ahead, but we're all in this together, right?

Hanks, this is the internet. All are welcome. You just do what you need to do and I will thank you for it. I *might* even give you my first hug.

Mom-I guess I can thank you for not aborting me.

Happy Mother's Day.

thank you for bringing me into this world but my childhood sucked and its a miracle i survived it

Dear Mom,

I miss you.

Love,
CL

Hey Mom!

You are who I have always hoped to be.

Thank you for your love, your care, and your guidance.

dear mom

I detest you too.

Happy Mothers day

Dear Mom,

I know you did the best you could. I'm glad that you have finally sought help for your depression. I wish it was a long time ago.

I forgive you.

Love always,
Chopin

Dear Mom,

I wish my childhood had been better - it was pretty awful.

But I know most of the time you were helpless to do anything about it.

I love you, I forgive you, I'm glad you're my oldest best friend.

Love you,
Your Daughter

Dear Mom:

I can only imagine what hell you grew up in to make you wreck my childhood like you did ... I so wish we could have talked about it so it could maybe have helped you to begin healing too ... Now that you've passed away, I'm hoping you're finding the peace you didn't have in this life ...

Hopefully one day we can be together in the afterlife the way we were supposed to be together here in this life ... In the meantime I'm healing and recovering pretty good even though some things that got broken simply can't be fixed ...

But I'm learning to accept it for the most part, and am hoping that I may actually be able to forgive it all some day and move on ...

,
Pfrog

Dear Mother,

I'm sorry I failed you so very badly when you needed me the most. Thank you for never trying to talk me into having children.

I love you.
-Apx

"I love you. Thank you for always caring for me and supporting me. I'm so afraid I'm a disappointment to you, I hope with all my heart that I'm not."

Dear Mom,

This will never reach you because you live in your own world and always have. I know how it would crush your self-image for me to tell you you didn't nurture me because you base so much of your identity on being a mom and thinking you were a great mom. You weren't. You had kids to meet your own needs for love and purpose, and you used us to that end.

Honestly, I'm still pissed off that I had no say in whether or not I got to come into existence. I would have chosen not to exist, but like most parents you just cavalierly went about making more people because that's what we're programmed to do. Well, I chose not to. I would never condemn another person to life by giving birth. That is too great a burden to thrust on someone else because I think I'd make a good mommy or "Gee, I like kids so much."

The crazy train of our psychotic family stops with me. I am not so arrogant as to think I can surmount the generational piles of sh it constantly pushing me into dysfunctional behavior and be the first in our line to be a "good enough" parent. I wish to god you hadn't been that arrogant either. I wish you weren't still that arrogant.

But I couldn't ever disabuse you of the notion that you had beat the family curse of dysfunction because, once again, you live in your own world and you see what you want to see. But if I really wrote what I wanted to in my card to you with no consideration for your fragile feelings and just letting my anger and hurt be honest, the card would read:

Dear Mom,

You failed.

To my mother: I know you did the best you could.

To myself: You don't have kids. That's okay. And today the guy at church who couldn't remember you don't have kids deserves to be forgiven. He probably said that to every woman of child bearing age who walked through the door.

Dear Mom,
I dont really know what to say. Our relationship doesnt go much deeper than the standard, superficial Happy Mothers Day. I wish you would've gotten help and I wish you still would...not for my sake...but for yours. Your life could be so much different. Im trying very hard to change mine and make it better. Its really hard work but I know it will be worth it eventually. You would be crushed if you knew I was going to therapy and that you were part of that reason. I gave you a hug today and it was awkward...like it always is. Ive never thought about it much before....I just thought all mom hugs were awkward. Im saddened to learn that's just not true. I dont know what else to say. Ill sign it with love because im supposed to.

Love,
Struggling

Dear Mom,

Well you f...cked that up didn't you?

Love Ab.

Dear Mom,

You did alot and I appreciate everything you did do, I know you tried. But its the things you didn't do that hurt. I know it was never intentional. You were limited by your own sh** and still are. I have come to realize no matter how much I would like to change your life for you, to make it better, I can't. Only you can want and do that and you don't seem willing. I can never tell you the true extent of the pain you caused as I'm pretty sure it would crush you. I'm trying to work my own sh** out and I hope one day if you want, you will do the same. Until then I will try control my anger towards you.

Love,

Tkdgirl

Dear Mom,

I'm sure you would say you did the best you could. I think you did the best you chose to do.

You're probably feeling very sorry for yourself today, and everyone else in my crazy @$$ FOO is fueling your martyr syndrome. I'm sure you told them that you sent me a Mother's Day card--too bad we're not talking or I would tell you it went straight in the trash unopened.

I've done very well in life, at least as far as most people can tell, but my success in life is in spite of you rather than because of you. And you will never understand why I harbor such anger toward you--it's easier to just call me the crazy one and blame me. Scapegoating is such a relief, isn't it?

I enjoyed spending time with my kids and in-laws today. My MIL has been more of a mother to me than you ever were. I learned as an adult what true love really feels like, and I never felt it from you, mom, or anyone else in the FOO. So at least now I know I'm not the problem.

I hope you had fun in your self-pity today, mom. It is, after all, one of your specialties.

Signed,

SarahPlainandShort

Hey, I'm glad the birth control failed, even if you aren't, as you felt the need to tell me about repeatedly.

Dear Mom......

You are the BEST mother in the world.....Thanks for all your support and love......

Me....

Mom,
I miss you more than anything in the world. My heart breaks every time you granddaughter asks about you. I wish you were here for her, for us. I miss you and love you with all my heart.

Excellent!

"I hope you get crabs."