but words can never hurt me!
whoever thought that up must have had rocks in their heads because its such a LIE!!! words can and do hurt-they cut down,destroy,diminish,belittle,devastate,eat away at your very core. words have sent us screaming down into the black abyss. words.....hurt

My heart aches for you, TD. You are worth so much better than this.

After the terrorist attack in Norway last year, one young girl said something that has been widely quoted: If one man can display so much hate, just imagine how much love we can display together.

So, TD, can you picture to yourself all of your PC friends together saying all the positive, loving, validating, healing words that you deserve to hear? We are doing that, from all over the world.

we cant tell you how much what you said means to us♥♥♥♥ thank you so much for this♥♥♥

[unaluna]

What can be done to end this? A 3-day tantrum is pretty long for someone who is old enough to be working. This daughter is now being abusive, and that should be pointed out to her. Is she in therapy? Does she want history to repeat itself, or worse? Ask her what she is doing to help herself, to change. At least YOU are doing something, trying something new, doing the best you can. She needs to start trying also, and stop blaming her past.

[Crescent Moon]

Originally Posted by TrinityDancer

but words can never hurt me!
whoever thought that up must have had rocks in their heads because its such a LIE!!! words can and do hurt-they cut down,destroy,diminish,belittle,devastate,eat away at your very core. words have sent us screaming down into the black abyss. words.....hurt

Words definitely hurt. I`d get over a physical assault sooner than a verbal assault.

My daighter has bipolar, and she`s very intelligent. When meds arent working or a manic episode breaks thru, it`s devastating for me. She saves the worst of herself for me, and there was one time I nearly had an emotional breakdown because of it. So I get how bad it is. But, as others told me at the time, it`s not about you.. it`s about her. Even if she has justifiable wounds, everyone does to one extent or another, and it is her job to figure out how to grow. It sure is hard on us moms, tho.

Originally Posted by hankster

What can be done to end this? A 3-day tantrum is pretty long for someone who is old enough to be working. This daughter is now being abusive, and that should be pointed out to her. Is she in therapy? Does she want history to repeat itself, or worse? Ask her what she is doing to help herself, to change. At least YOU are doing something, trying something new, doing the best you can. She needs to start trying also, and stop blaming her past.

she has zero problems pointing out what she is doing right-like being on felony probation,in a drug control program and holding her first job after 21 years. but dont DARE try and tell her shes doing a single thing wrong! shes been like this since she was very young-verbally/physically abusive,tried poisoning core-so much but we wont put it all here because its very bad and very triggering. and through it all,while she went from one counselor to another,one pdoc to another,one med to another-evvery single last one of them-in front of the daughter-blamed core for daughters behavior. so in essence everything is our fault. her multiple arrests,years of drug use,stealing,-all on us. if we had at least one person irl on our side maybe we could get some help. but we are alone with this. we are so very thankful for all of you here on PC. thursday we are going to ask our counselor what she thinks about us maybe going away somewhere