T says I do this, instead of just letting things unfold. I guess trauma has that effect on you. What do others think, do you tempt date and why?

[eskielover]

No tempting fate here.....first off, I don't believe in fate......but am very careful about thinking things through before doing them.....sometimes I blow it, but not being a great risk taker in the first place.....I am very cautious

[roads]

tempting fate:
... ... and I tried to find the sig photo some one has ...
Crashing cymbols over the heads of sleeping polar bears? Ya, also would be tempting fate.
Assuming that fate exists, we will meet our destinies in due course.
Tempting fate seems to me to be a different thing, and having nothing to do with the usual concept of fate.
Tempting fate implies "Asking for it," living on the edge ... risking it all.

Is that what you're doing?

Roadie, very funny lol

I ve spent my life tempting fate.

[critterlady]

I spent my late teens and twenties tempting fate. I'm sure I kept a whole team of guardian angels busy. I was actually pretty lucky to have made it to my 30s.

My T believes that it was a response to the abuse i experienced in my early teens.

[mixedup_emotions]

I used to tempt fate during my rebellious years when I was a teen....and then after my divorce when memories of my pre-married life hit me like a ton of bricks....the anxiety, repressed anger, etc. surfaced and I ended up acting out in ways that could be viewed as tempting fate....

I don't knOw how to let things unfold. The overwhelming feelings I feel make me force outcomes. Like fight or flight, I have to fight. Cept it's not doing me any favours now. How do you begin to let things unfold?

[mixedup_emotions]

I find that becoming self-aware of the feelings before I react is something that takes a lot of practice. Taking some deep breaths and assessing my feelings and temptations, trying to understand where they're coming from, whether or not the reaction is justified and as a result of what's happening in the moment, the potential risks/rewards/consequences, etc.

I guess for me the feelings are so old and unprocessed that I can't even begin to reflect on them. Perhaps I should wear an elastic band round my wrist and pinch myself with it to Proventil me just reacting?

At work at the moment I have a boss with no people skills and his constantly threatening us. His in a lot of fear for his job and that's causing a reaction in me . I want to tell him to stick his Job up his arse.

If I could remind myself he has lot more to loose then I have, but I just see red.