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Jun 08, 2012, 11:30 AM
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since our current counselor agreed to let us add another one to supplement our time with her we have been looking non-stop. but quite literally we have contacted by email,phone or voicemail,no less than 20 different counselors and not ONE SINGLE REPLY! what does that say about us? we already hate ourselves and know we are worthless but this just reinforces how miserable we truly are. so awful that with only a minimum of information none of them want to even return a call or email. the one prospect we did have ,since we moved,is now geographically unrealistic and we cant do it. you would think in a city as large as the one we live in there would be someone,anyone who would at least return a call. we think we are just done trying
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 ECHOES, healed84, kirbydog156, Nelliecat, pbutton, SeaSalt, WikidPissah
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Jun 08, 2012, 11:32 AM
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I recall feeling this way after being dumped by T #1 and couldnt find a new t for two years. So frustrating and hopeless. But its about them not about you.
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Jun 08, 2012, 11:42 AM
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TD, I know you are not unwanted. What do you think the hardest hurdle in getting a T is for you? Is it the DID? Is it your insurance or lack of insurance? Are you considered disabled? Every county has a disability advocate...here it's called Rights of the Disabled...can you find that and request help? Have you contacted National Alliance of the Mentally Ill (NAMI) and asked them for help? Also your states website should have a health and human services page with contact numbers on it.
You may have to do a lot of leg work and make a lot of noise, but there should be an option somewhere. Keep calling until you get a response.
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#4
Jun 08, 2012, 11:44 AM
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nooooooo!! don't think that! I had exactly the same experience. I contacted 50 or so therapists and only 2-3 called me back and did NOT say some version of "not taking new patients at this time". It's totally not you! No, no, no!!
This is when you have to be really firm with yourself and harden yourself and repeat over and over "I'm not taking this personally. I'm not taking this personally." because honestly it can't be personal. They don't even know you! Just keep at it. Eventually you'll find one who will respond to you. |
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Jun 08, 2012, 01:58 PM
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So sorry this is happening.
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Jun 08, 2012, 03:22 PM
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well you're always wanted here TD 
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Jun 08, 2012, 03:29 PM
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trinity, I think it says more about them than you! And others are right, it's not personal; it's probably their professional choice or a lack of time to respond, maybe even a lack of courtesy, in some respects. Who knows? Maybe some don't respond because they have a full case load, maybe some don't respond because they aren't sure they have the experience or capability to really help you. But that doesn't mean you are worthless or unhelpable .... because that's not true! There's someone out there who can help and is right for you.
You'll just need to be persistent, be patient, keep trying. I know that's hard and it sucks to have to work so hard at finding a counselor when you already feel exhausted and desperate and discouraged. But just keep calling, as the others have said too ..... if you stop calling, you won't get an answer. But if you keep calling, you have the hope get an answer by and by! |
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#8
Jun 08, 2012, 04:14 PM
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thanks so much everyone. of course you are all right but its so hard not to take it personally especially with our history of rejection-which we are sure everyone can relate to. depression and anxiety dont help either. we are going to try and just forget about it this weekend and start again on monday. ♥♥♥
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| Anonymous32517, kirbydog156, WikidPissah
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Jun 08, 2012, 04:17 PM
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that's a good idea. taking a break, giving yourself a break, helps! and you can call it a fresh new start Monday, with new energy to put into it.
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Jun 08, 2012, 04:23 PM
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we have so much to do anyway so it wont be too hard to forget about it for at least 2 days. trying to think of the fun things we have to look forward to-getting our nails done,buying some new art projects,maybe trying some cross stitch,going swimming. hoping it will balance out the un-fun stuff like laundry,shopping and cooking. just need to try and unstress. we have been thinking of trying to find some relaxation CDs,like nature sounds or something to help us sleep. maybe we will start a thread asking for suggestions♥
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Jun 08, 2012, 06:20 PM
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~ 
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