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Old Jun 19, 2012, 02:06 PM
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I struggle with migraines and other painful health issues. It's a struggle to get through each day at times.

Tonight, I have group T....and I hate it when I struggle with deciding whether or not to go to group. Each and every time I've struggled with the decision - I've always - ALWAYS - decided to go...Sometimes I was glad I did, other times, not so much.

I was hit with a horrific migraine, and I am now in the hangover phase where I am feeling incredibly weak, tired and achy. I can't imagine taking a shower let alone going to group in 2 hours....I haven't eaten because the thought of eating makes me sick.

Some of my group members have expressed their appreciation of me attending group even though I'm unwell....they say they'd rather have me there, even just to listen, than to miss group. That helps me feel incredibly valued and cared for - but also adds to the pressure that I feel when making this decision.

Blech.

Since I know myself well enough that I will feel intense pressure to go, as the time gets closer....I need to learn to stop with the struggling to make that decision. But I feel soooo yucky right now. Too tired and weak to even move.....

Hate this.
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Old Jun 19, 2012, 02:14 PM
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If you're feeling horrible, it's okay to give yourself permission to stay home and rest. Taking care of your own needs is really important; don't worry about letting the other group members down, migraines, especially a doozy, are awful.
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Old Jun 19, 2012, 04:27 PM
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Maybe it's too early for you to make your decision. Can you set a time by which you will say yes or no and make that decision then? Worrying about it until then will just make you feel worse.
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Old Jun 19, 2012, 05:30 PM
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Old Jun 19, 2012, 06:59 PM
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did you go? I hope you did what's good for MUE.
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Old Jun 19, 2012, 07:51 PM
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I hope you're feeling better.

I know that migraine hangover feeling all too well. I can't imagine going out, let alone to a group T session, when I'm in the worst of that. I had a hard enough time the one time I went to T the morning after a bad nighttime migraine.
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Old Jun 20, 2012, 09:10 AM
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Thanks, everyone.....I ended up going to group....and I was not very in tune with what was going on...and I didn't work very hard. There were a couple of times when I said things that I later regretted because of how I worded them. I know how I was feeling contributed to that, leaving me less able to communicate effectively. Blah.

My issue is moreso about decision making....I used to be so decisive....easily able to problem-solve. Nowadays, I find myself struggling with making a decision...which leaves me feeling so much worse because of the uncertainty.
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Old Jun 20, 2012, 10:29 AM
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Are you sure it didn't have more to do with the "hangover" from the migraine? That alone would leave you more "befuddled" than anything. All you need to do is make sure you're putting YOUR needs before anything. Now is the time to start thinking of YOU instead of everyone else. I doubt that you're in the habit of thinking of YOU. You've always thought of everyone else, and you put yourself last all the time. You don't know HOW to take care of yourself, or to put your needs first.

You've got to learn, and why not start now? Today is the day. What are you going to start doing TODAY for YOU???
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