[healed84]

For the first month of Therapy I was going every other week, then one day T asked if he could see me the next week instead of the week after. I said sure, after that I discloused my rape and he suggested that it might be a good idea to schedule out month by month and start going every week. I am good with that. However b/c of his schedule and mine, the whole month of June so far has been every other.

I find myself ok in the sense that I am not dying to talk to him, and need the contact, etc. However, I do find that if I go from every other week to every week it is harder for me to connect with him in our session. I find myself getting more nervous right before the appointment the longer I go without seeing him. Every week just seems like we can pick up where we left off, which is nice when we are talking about some pretty heavy, private stuff that I have talked to very few people about. When it happens that we it has been every other, I find myself halfway through our session before I can finally open up.

anybody have this issue? Do you think I should ask for a trail of more every other weeks to just see how it feels? Do you think I should bring it up at all?

[critterlady]

I see my T twice most weeks. I find that in the weeks I only see him once or when we don't see each other at all for a week, it is harder for me to get back to the deep work. I tend to stick more or less to current events when we see each other less frequently.

When we're steadily doing twice/week, I find it easier to to talk about the deep things. I think I need a greater feeling of connection to open up about those issues, which seeing him more often helps foster.

[rainboots87]

I found that I do worse AND get more dependent on T when I see her more frequently. Even though my T and I alternated once a week and twice a week for a bit, we've been doing just once a week and I've been making better progress. I think when I move, I'll actually try every other week since I know I do better with that setup.

I encourage you to talk to your T about the affect of session frequency on your progress so y'all can discuss it and figure out where to go from here on out.