[Kellarella]

I have recently stopped seeing my therapist. I haven't had problems for long so she is the only one I have seen and had been seeing her for about 3 months. I am still seeing my psychiatrist for my meds etc and she is ok, but now only seeing her worries me because she is more the medicine person, if that makes sense, she will listen to how I have been feeling to a certain degree but then it becomes all about the meds, I am unable to really get into my worries/fears and gaining the tools to overcome them... (I have GAD).

Anyway, my psychiatrist stopped the therapist sessions because I was really really anxious before and after the sessions and I just felt like I was getting nowhere (I have written this in another post in the anxiety section).

She is really really nice and I get along with her so well... but I think maybe we get along too well if that makes sense, like we are too much alike... she is quite young, and I find us just mucking around all the time in sessions. She always tells me that I just think too much, that I am totally normal and that I just need to stop and relax.. which I think umm if I could do that, I would... that's why I am here, I can't!!!

It's so hard.... I feel so bad for stopping the therapy, I really don't want her to feel like she has done something wrong.

I live in Tasmania, Australia... it is soooo hard to find someone I can really feel comfortable with. I find it really hard to pay for the sessions... and it is a lot of money... I just feel I want more for what I pay.. I would like a therapist who is more supportive, who I could ring if I needed them, and talk about a lot more issues that I have felt I couldn't bring up with my other therapist. I feel like I want to start fresh, get in there and say, this is where I have been, this is what I have done... this is how I feel now... the major issues I have are..... and then work from there.... I feel I am at a different stage now where I can start working on some other stuff that may have contributed to where I have got myself now....I am not right in the anxiety state anymore where I was all over the place and not knowing what was wrong... I know know what I have, what has made it happen... but of course it still scares me, I need the tools to deal with it..... just feel like I wasn't getting that from the other therapist, she was too intimidating and silly.... that was her approach obviously, but I honesty feel like maybe I want to see a male, and someone older... for some reason!

I really struggle with money, my mum helps me out, but we cant afford to see a few and decide who I like! I just dont know how to go about it....

I just cant keep seeing the psychiatrist as therapy, she is great for meds etc, but not for me and how I feel.....

[(JD)]

Are you saying that you can't interview a new therapist on the phone there? You can here, and often a therapist will allow you to see them for a consult (shorten session) just to ask questions/interview. See what you can get from them on the phone (not with the receptionist!) and maybe someone will sound great or give you good vibes over the free phone call??? TC

[Kellarella]

Hey Sky,

No we have nothing like that here at all... I don't even know of any other therapists other than mine! and I can't ask her!!

I wish there was that process here. I am going to ask my psychiatrist to find me another one, but she picked the one I was going to and said that she would be excellent, I would get on with her really well etc, and that didn't work!

Thanks anyway

Kel

[Rapunzel]

Hey Kel, I'm just wondering if you discussed your reasons for stopping therapy with your therapist. I don't know, but it seems to me that mucking around, telling you to stop and relax, and normalizing your problem could have been an attempt to put you at ease and help you to stop worrying as much, and maybe the plan was to help you generalize that to your GAD. But if you felt like it wasn't helping, talking to the therapist can let them know that they need to take a different approach, or give them a chance to explain how the strategy they are using is therapeutic and how they selected it for you. She might also be able to make a good referral for you based on what you need, and a good therapist should be willing and able to do that. You wouldn't be any worse off for asking her, would you?

Rap

[Kellarella]

Thanks Rap,

I know I probably should have told her this stuff... but it just isnt going to work, I feel like I can't say certain things to her, and that makes me so much worse when I leave, I feel like like I had so much more to say. I know that is me, but I am a real talker and never have problems saying how I feel, it's her approach that I don't feel comfortable with, and I couldnt tell her, I dont know why....

I really dont feel comfortable telling her that It's not working etc.. I even made my psychiatrist ring and tell her... I have no idea why it has made me so worried about it, I am never like that!!

That's what I mean about starting fresh with someone new, that I feel like I can say everything.

I will talk to my psychiatrist about it when I see her, see what she says. If she decides to send me back to the same one, I will do it, but dont think anything will change!

Kel

[January]

(((((((( Kell ))))))))

I sure hope things go better.

Hugs,

Jan

[Kellarella]

Thankyou Jan,

I have been really good the past few days... so I am going to see how I go just seeing my psychiatrist for a bit, I know if I need a therapist I can go back to the same one or find another one....

But for the moment, all is good, hope it lasts!!

Thanks again

Kel