[elliemay]

I've seen him 4 times now and have a pretty good feeling for him.

He is a kind soul, smart and interesting. He simply doesn't have the credentials and experience that my old therapist had. I can see he is a bit rough around the edges, and in some areas still developing the self discipline of a therapist who had practiced for years and years.

All the really important stuff is there though. He also completely understands my occasional desire to quit everything and become an edible flowers farmer - something my old therapist, a very successful and respected man, never quite understood or would endorse.

To be fair though, we spend most of our time together talking about my old therapist.

I have absolutely no idea how to handle the end of that relationship. It's rough going for sure.

But, if you honor and cherish a relationship, you also honor the emotions at its end. I guess. It's a quandry as to how to do that, but I'm not entirely sure I have to do anything at all. Just be.

Relationships aren't all sunshine and unicorns, sometimes they outright suck. It is and was totally, utterly worth it. It was transforming.

So, I move forward in my new life with a good, kind person to help with the transition and homesickness.

I don't know why I posted this. Just did I guess.

Beats being that crazy lady out howling at the moon surrounded by cats for sure.

[skeksi]

I'm glad the new T has a helpful relationship with you, elliemay. I hope it's making the transition you are going through a little bit smoother!

[kiki86]

hey! i'm a crazy cat lady.

i'm glad your new t is working out for you though. it's good you have someone to talk to about ending your relationship with old t.

[pachyderm]

Originally Posted by elliemay

Beats being that crazy lady out howling at the moon surrounded by cats for sure.

Was there a danger that you might have become that?

[elliemay]

Originally Posted by pachyderm

Was there a danger that you might have become that?

I do face the constant peril of becoming the crazy cat lady. I am just that person.

It's not that I go out looking for them, it's more that they find me.

[Perna]

Originally Posted by elliemay

He is a kind soul, smart and interesting.

All the really important stuff is there though. He also completely understands my occasional desire to quit everything and become an edible flowers farmer - something my old therapist, a very successful and respected man, never quite understood or would endorse.

Is he single/marriageable? He sounds great to work and grow with. I saw my T when she was a newer T and then 20 years later and she had turned into a great T and we worked well together for many years after that.

[karebear1]

Very sweey and comforting post Ellie- thanks for posting it.

[Perna]

Originally Posted by elliemay

I do face the constant peril of becoming the crazy cat lady. I am just that person.

It's not that I go out looking for them, it's more that they find me.

What is your address elliemay? I have a couple that I would like to lose I took my usually clueless male to the ER vets (we cannot make an appointment with a vet because it's very difficult to capture them to meet the timing of the appointment) just a couple days ago, I was afraid his kidneys were failing but he apparently might have arthritis in his hips is all, just needed some pain killer. A huge relieve for me, on to the next stressor.

elliemay, that is really a nice post. Both about your previous therapist and your new.

And I have 5 cats in a smallish house. They do tend to start accumulating, huh?

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by karebear1

Very sweey and comforting post Ellie- thanks for posting it.

yes, truly.

Good for you Ellie!!!

thanks for sharing. i like reading your posts!

[pbutton]

Thank you for sharing.

[elliemay]

I absolutely will not take any more cats. I now have a policy that unless they walk up starving and really need me, then I'm good with the ones I have. It's really easy to slip into the "what's one more" mentality.

I have learned to keep the pet to human ratio set such that I might have a fighting chance should things go horribly horribly wrong.

I hopeful that I will not have to or want to stay with this new guy for long. However, he is very important right now.

And he's rising to it.

Nice. I can forest gump my way into some pretty good practioners I gotta say.

[stopdog]

They are just little tiny cats. They do not take up much room.(I am a sucker for cats)

[pachyderm]

Originally Posted by elliemay

I absolutely will not take any more cats. I now have a policy that unless they walk up starving and really need me, then I'm good with the ones I have. It's really easy to slip into the "what's one more" mentality.

I have two twelve-year-olds. On May 31 I found a kitten all by itself while out on a walk. I did not think it safe to keep it -- who knows what my cats might do to it -- they are pretty hostile to other cats that come around. So I took it to a nearby animal shelter. I have kept track and she got adopted just about a week ago, so now she has her own home!