Have any of you ever said something embarassing, something you could not say in session with the hand on the " door knob"... so to speak.

I think I made a door knob move myself when I terminated T. I had a difficult time talking about my feelings and also denying the fact, all through therapy, that I needed a mother or a caring mother figure as a child. ...Like everything was fine growing up blah blah blah on my part. T tried to get me to realise that every child needs a mother ( or another caring adult, love and care.

Of course I knew this deep inside but I have never had a mother and have lived all my life denying the fact that this were a problem for me and this is where some of my problems rises from.

After paying T on our termination session I just felt a need to say something emotional. So I said thank you for hugging me all along and be the women to teach me that touch and caring is good. It has made my life so much easier outside of sessions. Then we said goodbye.

I don´t know if she would see this as a door knob move ( as it was important for me to realise that I did need this and something we should have talked more about as I should have been able to talk about in session) Or she would think I was just paying her a compliment and saying thank you?

Lonelybychoice, IMO what is important is that you took the opportunity to say the things you needed to say. I think one of the things covered in the final session with T is all the things you learned during your time in therapy. I'm sure she would consider your statement to mean this is something that you were thankful you learned in therapy.

[kiki86]

yes i do this all the time. i didn't realise i was doing it but T pointed out that i always wait for quarter to 11 to say something embarrassing or difficult. i need to work on that.

as for what you said, i don't know. i mean i think it's good that you said it at all even if it was at the last minute and maybe it would have helped to talk it out more but i don't think it's the worst kind of doorknob confession.

Originally Posted by kiki86

yes i do this all the time. i didn't realise i was doing it but T pointed out that i always wait for quarter to 11 to say something embarrassing or difficult. i need to work on that.

as for what you said, i don't know. i mean i think it's good that you said it at all even if it was at the last minute and maybe it would have helped to talk it out more but i don't think it's the worst kind of doorknob confession.

Thanks I guess you guys are right. Maybe no big deal and no real door knob confession is a bad way Just me showing last minute emotions..Yikes I am sure there are worse stories out there waiting to be told

[Perna]

Originally Posted by lonelybychoice

I don´t know if she would see this as a door knob move ( as it was important for me to realise that I did need this and something we should have talked more about as I should have been able to talk about in session) Or she would think I was just paying her a compliment and saying thank you?

Can't know unless you go back and ask her

I went back after a few years, saw the same T again and it was wonderful; we worked through a lot of things that we were unable to the first time.

Originally Posted by Perna

Can't know unless you go back and ask her

I went back after a few years, saw the same T again and it was wonderful; we worked through a lot of things that we were unable to the first time.

..Perna... for some reason you sometimes annoy me with your responses ( I am writing this in a kind and ironic way

When my ever neglecting T chooses not to ignore my texting, for other reasons. (I won´t bring that subject up yet again in this thread ) I think it would be highly beneficial to go back and work through what I was not ready for the first time. Considering the way I terminated and some of the progress I must have made that would make sence, in the long run and then I can ask her