Canceled

For the first time ever my T canceled our appointment for tomorrow morning. I know that things come up, and that it shouldn't be that big of a deal for me, but I am having a lot of trouble with it right now. This has been such a horrible, no good, very bad week, and this is just that one more little thing that is pushing me in the wrong direction. I'm trying to think of things to do in that time to keep my mind occupied, but I'm not having much luck. As of right now, the best I have come up with is to not go to sleep until about 8 tomorrow morning, so I can sleep right through the normal appointment time. Really, I don't exactly know why I'm writing this. I guess I was wondering what other people do when they are canceled on.

Can you maybe write an email, or ask for a check in call? T may not be available tomorrow, but maybe later in the week. I think the idea of taking the time for yourself is awesome, but not so sure sleeping thru it is so great. How about going out for a cup of coffee, or a pedicure, a hair appointment (I love having my hair washed). Even something simple like drawing a bath and lighting some candles. Something that says "You deserve this hour".

He offered other appointments, but they are at times that I have to work. Chances are that I wouldn't be able to sleep through it even if I didn't go to be at all this evening. I usually can't sleep during the day. I'll try coffee, reading, going to some museums, but I'm just worried that I may have a mini break down at any moment.

The first time I "missed" my session with my old T, I was in the middle of my very first Zumba class. It was definitely distracting!

With my coordination skills, a Zumba class would be quite distracting, and perhaps a bit ankle breaking as well.

I really don't know how I'm going to get through this week.

Are you kidding? The one time my T canceled(he had a death in the family) I lost it, I was crushed and had tthe same thought "what do I do now" because he canceled abruptly while I was on the bus going to session!

When you get back to therapy you should tell T how difficult it was/is for you when he cancels. It helps to talk about it. If you're a awake and missing your appointment time you could go for a walk... walks can be therapeutic and then you could shower/put your feet up. Do something kind for yourself.

Sorry you have to go through this. I know it's hard.

I remember when my T had to cancel once and it felt very hard. Can you do a phone session or would you be allowed to leave work and then return?

Thank you. For me I think a lot of it is that I have had a really bad week. Half the time I go into t not knowing exactly what I'll end up talking about. This week there was several things that I really wanted to bring up.

I should go for a walk. I have been hibernating so far today, which is not normal for me.

I'm not a big phone person, but it might be good this one time. I wouldn't be able to leave work.

I hate it when T's cancel and it does seem to happen at the most in opportune times. I agree with Wiki, you should still take that hour and do something for you. Retail therapy with the saved money?, a hike in the woods, coffee with a friend, mani/pedi, or take in a movie, maybe use the time to journal about what you were gonna say? you could always spend it here.