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#101
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the whole needs thing is so confusing
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#103
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As usual, Stopdog is an absolute breath of fresh air.
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"Just as a jewel that has been buried in the earth for a million years is not discolored or harmed, in the same way this noble heart is not affected by all of our kicking and screaming. The jewel can be brought out into the light at any time, and it will glow as brilliantly as if nothing had ever happened. No matter how committed we are to unkindness, selfishness, or greed, the genuine heart of bodhichitta cannot be lost. It is here in all that lives, never marred and completely whole."
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#104
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Stopdog: What is your thinking about using or receiving the "Thanks for this!" icon that is available here on this forum?
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#105
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I specifically stop before I leave both group and my individual sessions (different Ts) and make sure that I look them in the eye and thank them by name. It's important to me even if it's been a difficult session or if they've called me out on something. Being appreciative of poeple is important even if it's their job. I take classes (working towards my masters) and I thank my teacher after every class. Not to be a kiss *** but because I am genuinely appreciative of their efforts.
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#106
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I don't think of anyone here as a paid professional doing their job when they interact with me.
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#107
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Maybe there are some paid professionals here. We know there are moderators. Maybe they take off their uniforms and circulate among us? Anyone on PC might be a moderator in disguise.
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#108
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Oh good lord.
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#110
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It turns out I didn't thank her today.
Maybe I don't thank her as often as I thought.
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Mr Ambassador, alias Ancient Plax, alias Captain Therapy, alias Big Poppa, alias Secret Spy, etc. Add that to your tattoo, Baby! |
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I don't thank my T every week. I do thank him when he does something that is above and beyond the ordinary. I stopped therapy for a while and then I really thanked him for all that he helped me with and for the work that we did together.
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#112
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I used to thank my T after every session at the beginning, but then decided not to do it anymore, as I found it too formal. It was implied that I liked her work, since I've enjoyed and kept coming back, so a bye was enough. Afterwards, knowing that thank you can be used as polite tool, I've used it after the sessions which I didn't really enjoy or found helpful, more as a thanks for her time. Interesting, but that's how I felt
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#115
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I thank her and tell her I appreciate her. She always tells me she appreciates me too.
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