[Indie'sOK]

Hi all,

I thought this could be a fun/informative thread...has anyone ever loaned T certain objects, like CDs or books? Today I brought one of my Rush CDs into session for T to borrow for awhile. She wanted to listen to it right then and there, but I wouldn't let her play it.

I let my t borrow my cherished Robert Frost book of poems. I know several of them by heart, and recited one of my most favorites for her once. She was like "why do you know that" LOL I think she wanted to see if I was right or not. LOL!

[unaluna]

I always say, "you can return it whenever" and he never offers! it just stacks up. usually I take it home when he goes overseas just in case there's a plane crash, I don't want to be out my stuff, in addition to his being dead nice, huh? I think I have my own shelf in his fridge, too, with the misc foodstuffs I bring him. I think I missed that stage in childhood when you bring your mom dandelions.

Originally Posted by Indie'sOK

Hi all,

I thought this could be a fun/informative thread...has anyone ever loaned T certain objects, like CDs or books? Today I brought one of my Rush CDs into session for T to borrow for awhile. She wanted to listen to it right then and there, but I wouldn't let her play it.

I give my T music (emailed for itunes or ipod) and shes supposed to burn some audio books for me, too.

[growlycat]

Usually he has read anything really good before I have--he's quite a prolific reader--so when I had a book/movie he had never heard of he was really excited to borrow the dvd and book. ( on a former thread, I mentioned the book/indie movie Thumbsucker, that's the one) He loved both and it sparked some interesting conversations.

He has lent/given me more than I have lent/given him. Still trying to figure out his reason for lending me David Foster Wallace's Infinite Jest. Maybe I was calling him to much and I need a 1000 pg whackadoo book to distract me. lol!

[Indie'sOK]

Originally Posted by growlycat

He has lent/given me more than I have lent/given him. Still trying to figure out his reason for lending me David Foster Wallace's Infinite Jest. Maybe I was calling him to much and I need a 1000 pg whackadoo book to distract me. lol!

I read the Wikipedia page for this book...what the heck? Sounds depressing.
Did you finish the book?

[growlycat]

I did! It's actually oddly both funny and depressing!

The only thing, I have ever loaned to a therapist was a piece of my art. She liked it enough, that she asked me if she could display it in her office for awhile. I let her. She took great care of it.

No never loaned T anything but I adore Rush!!! LoL

[autotelica]

I've given her lots of stuff, but nothing that I expected to get back later.

She once loaned me a book. I haven't finished reading all of it (it's a little boring), so I haven't returned it. That was three years ago. She's no doubt forgotten all about it. I can return it...I should return it. But I don't want to. Maybe I'm afraid that as long as I hold onto it, she'll always be around for me. Which is stupid since she's given me a ton of stuff to hold on to. And yet, I don't plan to give her her book back. Not unless she asks for it.

[LoneWolfie]

I once burned a CD of Jim Brickman's for my Psychiatrist and ACT worker.

[WikidPissah]

I have never loaned a T anything. I have never borrowed anything from a T either. My ex-ex T gave me several cards with religious images depicted on the front and prayers on the back. One that I have kept in my wallet is the sacred heart rendition of Jesus. I do smile when I see it because it reminds me of him.

[Indie'sOK]

Originally Posted by earthmamma

No never loaned T anything but I adore Rush!!! LoL

Right on!

Thanks for the responses everyone. For those of you familiar with this music, I gave her Moving Pictures. I listened to it on my ipod on the way home, thinking "what the heck did I just do?" Not that it's bad, I just imagine listening to it from her perspective.

Surely this is unethical, as is having coffee with yout T and going on vacation with them.

[Indie'sOK]

Originally Posted by Lycanthrope

Surely this is unethical, as is having coffee with yout T and going on vacation with them.

How is this unethical when it's not hurting either therapist or client? Of course going out on social occasions would be bad because it's taking the relationship out of the therapy room. This is different. And every T has their own rules for what is acceptable and what isn't.

[unaluna]

And don't call me Shirley

Originally Posted by Indie'sOK

How is this unethical when it's not hurting either therapist or client? Of course going out on social occasions would be bad because it's taking the relationship out of the therapy room. This is different. And every T has their own rules for what is acceptable and what isn't.

Let's say you borrow something and it goes missing or vice-versa. Some clients/T's could decieve to get gifts this way.

I've loaned my T a book. He's loaned me a CD.

[Indie'sOK]

Originally Posted by Lycanthrope

Let's say you borrow something and it goes missing or vice-versa. Some clients/T's could decieve to get gifts this way.

I think it's up to both therapist and client to work out an agreement beforehand on how a situation like this should be handled. If a client is using this as a way to get gifts, I would think they would keep doing it over and over again. Hopefully the therapist would recognize what's happening and confront the client about it.

I can see how this might be a problem in some client/therapist relationships. If a client is purposefully not returning T's stuff, there is an issue there that needs to be addressed. I don't see the point of lying to a therapist when we pay them to help us figure ourselves out.

Interesting indeed.